August 20, 2013 

HealingHeartPower Newsletter

Reclaiming the Power of the Heart
In This Issue
Soul Mates and Wound Mates
Even A Supermom Can't Take the Place of a Dad
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About Linda
Me and Flora

Linda Marks, MSM, is pioneer in body psychotherapy who has developed, taught and practiced Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy (EKP) for more than two decades.

Author of LIVING WITH VISION and HEALING THE WAR BETWEEN THE GENDERS, she co-founded the Massachusetts Association of Body Psychotherapists and Counseling Bodyworkers and is the founder of the Boston Area Sexuality and Spirituality Network. She holds degrees from Yale and MIT, and has a vital 17-year-old son.

To find out more about Linda . . .



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Would you like to learn how to do Emotional Kinesthetic Psychotherapy(EKP)?   


If you would like to apprentice in EKP, you may want to consider participating in a half-day EKP workshop or be part of the Community As Healer group.   

 

To be scheduled

Community As Healer

workshop

Newton, MA 

1 - 4 pm

 

September 2

Shirley Fest

Honoring the life of Shirley Lewis

New Hampshire

More details TBA

 

September 14

Community As Healer 

with Linda Marks

Worcester Goddess Fair

Worcester State College

 

Setpember 21

Special Blues Cruise in Honor of Shirley Lewis

Newburyport, MA

Produced by Joe Laite

www.newburyportbluescruise.com

 

November 24

Music Mentoring and Friendraising Gala

at Scullers Jazz Club

Boston, MA

5 - 7:30 pm

 

April 20, 2014

3rd Annual Voices of Boys and Men Benefit Concert 

for Boys to Men New England

at Scullers Jazz Club

5 - 7:30 pm

 

If you would like to train in EKP, contact Linda

 

If you would like to sponsor a

Healing the Traumatized Heart workshop, a Willingness:  The Key to Successful Relationships workshop or a Community As Healer workshop,

contact LSMHEARTaol.com


 
Welcome

It's been quite a while since you've heard from me.  I have experienced first hand what it means to be in "the sandwich" generation, with an 86 year old mother with Alzheimers and a 17 year old son going off to college, with a summer of parenting challenges along the way.

 

Life is humbling and music truly grounds me and keeps me present.  My writing efforts have not been prose, but songs.  I am very happy that some good material has been harvested from some really challenging times.  A colleague of mine said that often what is too deep to express in words can be expressed through music!

 

Creating events that integrate music, community and a good cause spark the flame of my passion.  I am working on two amazing events, both at Scullers Jazz Club,  which I hope you will come out and enjoy: a Music Mentoring and Friendraising Gala on Sunday, November 24, 2013 benefitting the Boston Minstrels and the Living the Blues Foundation, and  the 3rd Annual "Voices of Boys and Men Benefit Concert" for Boys to Men New England on Sunday April 20, 2014.

 

I will be speaking on Community As Healer at the Goddess Fair at Worcester State College on September 14.

 

Defining Moments for Therapists, edited by Serge Prengel and Lynn Somerstein, includes a chapter I wrote, "Soul Geisha."  The book is available on Amazon.com.

  

                                  Articles include:
 
"Soul Mates and Wound Mates,"  building on a brilliant distinction made by my colleague Jeff Brown, and

"Even a Super Mom Can't Take the Place of a Dad,"  a piece I wrote for Dawn Caroll's  Over My Shoulder Foundation 

 

A very special Blues Cruise will take place on Saturday, September 21 honoring Shirley Lewis.  For more information:

www.newburyportbluescruise.com 

  

Your comments and feedback are always welcome!    

Heartfully,

Linda  

 

Music Mentoring and Friendraising Gala Logo 

Sunday, November 24 2013 

5:00 - 7:30 pm

Scullers Jazz Club

Boston, MA

 

Tickets:  $25 General Admission

$40 Preferred Seating

 

Music is a language that feeds the soul, bridges all divides and brings great joy.  Music brings people together in a way little else can and unites our hearts.

 

This event is a special benefit, integrating the blues, jazz and Boston Minstrels communities to highlight and celebrate the importance of mentoring in the music world.  Keynote speakers from the blues, jazz and Boston Minstrels communities will speak and play their special flavor of music, along with other special musical talents.  

 

Financial proceeds will go to the Boston Minstrels, whose mission is to bring positive emotional change to people in need (prisons, homeless shelters, VA hospitals...) through music and the Living the Blues Foundation, founded in memory of Shirley Lewis, the Regal Queen of the Blues.

 

Keynote speakers are:

 

James Montgomery, 

speaking about mentoring in the blues community

 

Bill and Bo Winiker, 

speaking about mentoring in the jazz community

 

Tim McHale, Boston Minstrels Founder, 

speaking about mentoring in the larger world community

 

To purchase tickets click here

 

What is EKP?
EKP is Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy, a heart-centered, body-centered psychotherapy method Linda Marks developed and has taught and practiced for nearly twenty years. Working with the heart, touch with permission, the wisdom of the body and the intuitive guidance of the spirit, EKP creates a special sense of intimacy that deeply touches and transforms most all who participate.

Participants can be "client," witness or helper as an individual group member has a "turn" to do deeper heart-centered, body-centered psychospiritual work in the center. Since the electromagnetic field of the heart extends out 10 - 12 feet from our bodies, as we go deeper and open our hearts, we are all touched.

EKP helps restore our capacity as organs of perception. The skin is our largest organ, and a source of soul deep knowing, perception and expression. When our hearts and hands can work as one, we move beyond defenses safely and respectfully and find freedom, connection and expression.

 

  

Emotional safety is the foundation of EKP.  When we are emotionally safe, we are more aware of feelings, sensations and deeper thoughts in our bodies and hearts.  You will have a chance to listen to and care for your heart as you help create and hold a safe healing space for everyone's heart.  Experience what we mean when we say that in EKP, "when anyone has a turn, everyone has a turn."

 

3rd Annual Benefit Concert for Boys to Men New England
Mentoring Matters
2013 Benefit Concert Flyer
This year's Benefit Concert for Boys to Men New England will take place on Sunday, April 20, 2014 from 5 - 7:30 pm at Scullers Jazz Club in Boston.

We are putting together our line up of performers, which will include "the Godfather of the Boston Folk Scene," Geoff Bartley with Howie Tarnower, Regal queen of the blues Shirley Lewis' fabulous daughter Angela Warner, and our father-son duo Jack and Jesse Gauthier...and many other exciting artists to be announced.

Tickets are $50 General Admission and $75 Preferred Seating, available by sending a check payable to Boys to Men New England to BTMNE c/o Linda Marks, 3 Central Avenue, Newton, MA 02460.  Please include your name, e-mail and cell phone number with your check.

You can also support BTMNE by:

1.  Sponsoring a teen to attend the concert.  (Send in $75 payable to BTMNE and you will sponsor one student to attend).

2.  Making a donation of any amount to BTMNE.

3.  Taking out an ad in our program ($250 for a business card sized ad).

4.  Being an event sponsor ($500 donation gets your logo on the back cover)
  
Soulmates and Woundmates

                      

So many of us wish to meet a "soul mate," another human being with whom we share a deep connection, where the level of intimacy seems
rich and endless, and where we may feel like we have known the other person forever, even when we have just met them. With a soul mate,  we can talk about seemingly anything, and the potential for joy, growth and fulfillment through relationship seems profound and exquisite.

 

What we often don't take into consideration, and may not be aware of,  is that when we have a deep connection with another person, not only do our most positive qualities have the opportunity to shine, but also our shadow parts come to the surface as well.  Deep connections, because they are safe and far reaching, allow us to connect with our undeveloped, unhealed and unexamined parts so that we may heal and integrate them as we grow.  When we do this critical shadow work, the rewards are soul rendering.

 

However, if we do not realize that with soul connection comes soul work, we may run from this important opportunity for growth, sometimes abandoning ship--our own and the one we share with a soul mate.

My colleague Jeff Brown, one of the most brilliant articulators of matters of the heart I know, has made a beautiful and very helpful distinction:  soul mates and wound mates.  

 

To read the complete article:

Workshops:  Community As Healer 

Community As Healer

$50 suggested donation will go to Boys to Men New England, the Life Is Good Kids Foundation and other organizations committed to making the world better for children.

Be part of a healing village doing EKP (Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy) body-centered psychotherapy work in community and see what we mean in EKP when we say, "when anyone has a turn, everyone has a turn."  We will create a space of emotional safety, incorporating a heart meditation, facilitated dialogue, and watching body language and non-verbal cues for the person having a turn.

Learn about the roles of client, witness and helper in EKP as we create a safe container with our collective heart field in 20 minute turns.  No matter what role you play, our goal is for you to feel nourished and supported!

Linda Marks, MSM, is a body psychotherapy coach and mediator who has worked with individuals, couples, families and groups for 27 years in Newton, MA.  Helping people connect, feel heard and understood so they have healthier, happier relationships is at the heart of her work.   Linda is committed to creating a better world for children and serves as Board Co-Chair of Boys to Men New England, serves on the Board of Directors for Ben Speaks, and serves on the Board of Advisors for the Flo Creed Jacobson Foundation.  She also serves on the Board of the Living the Blues Foundation.


 Even A Supermom Can't Take the Place of a Dad

 

 

One of the hallmarks of this American culture is self-reliance.   Messages about doing it all on our own, and being strong and tough and persevering abound, not only for men, but also for women.   When a woman finds herself in the position of being a single mom raising a son on her own, most people look the other way and tell her to just carry on. 

 

When my son was 2 his dad and I separated. He was 4 when his parents divorced. I was the primary custodial parent, but my son did have contact with his dad. When my son was 12, he and his dad stopped seeing one another. My son had asked his dad to address some serious issues between them, and his dad responded by pulling away.

 

Initially, the separation was very good for my son.  He and I together finally had the space for my son to have a more "normal life." Soccer, Red Sox games, movies and leadership conferences all became easier to take part in for my son with his life unencumbered by the issues with his dad.

 

Realizing that my son needed good male role models in his life, I sought out organizations and activities that allowed my son to interact with male mentors. I found Boys to Men New England when he was 12, and over time, BTMNE became a critical part of the emotional foundation for my son's life.

 

To read the complete article

 

 

My first blog at www.heartspacecafe.com/blog will still be active, but it is built in forum software, which many people find more cumbersome to use than official "blog" software.

In an effort to cultivate more dialogue in more contemporarily relevant ways, my new blog at HealingHeartPower.blogspot.com is user friendly, and even something you can subscribe to.
Please let me know what you think of this new blog.

Heartfully,


Linda Marks


email: lsmheart@aol.com
phone: (617) 965-7846
web: www.HealingHeartPower.com