November 1, 2012
HealingHeartPower Newsletter Reclaiming the Power of the Heart |
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About Linda
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Linda
Marks, MSM, is pioneer in body psychotherapy who has developed, taught
and practiced Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy (EKP) for more than
two decades. Author of LIVING WITH VISION and HEALING THE WAR BETWEEN THE GENDERS,
she co-founded the Massachusetts Association of Body Psychotherapists
and Counseling Bodyworkers and is the founder of the Boston Area
Sexuality and Spirituality Network. She holds degrees from Yale and MIT,
and has a vital 16-year-old son. To find out more about Linda . . .
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HealingHeartPower Calendar
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If you would like to apprentice in EKP, you may want to consider participating in a half-day EKP workshop or be part of the Community As Healer group.
November 3
Integrating Sexuality, Spirituality and Sensuality
MENSA Regional Gathering
Dedham, MA
7 pm
November 10
Community As Healer workshop
Newton, MA
1 - 4 pm
November 30
Meeting Our Basic Human Needs
at David Sneickus' and Margaret Arndt's home
7 - 10 pm
December 9
Community As Healer
workshop
Newton, MA
1 - 4 pm
April 21, 2013
2nd Annual "Voices of Boys and Men" Benefit Concert for Boys to Men New England
Scullers Jazz Club
Boston, MA
If you would like to train in EKP, contact Linda
If you would like to sponsor a
Healing the Traumatized Heart workshop, a Willingness: The Key to Successful Relationships workshop or a Community As Healer workshop,
contact LSMHEARTaol.com
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"Male Speak For Females" explores
how to bridge the gap between the different languages men and women
speak and understand, drawing from the work of Allison Armstrong.
Two Community As Healer
workshops are coming up: one will be on Saturday, November 10 in
Newton, MA from 1 - 4 pm, and the second one will be Sunday, December 9
from 1 - 4 pm.
All funds raised at these workshops are donated to organizations working to make the world a better place for kids.
Meeting Our Basic Human Needs: Creating A Village to Support Our Children, will
be my next workshop at the home of Margaret Arndt and David Sneickus
at their home in Auburndale. The workshop will take place on Friday, November 30 at 7 pm. Contact msarndt@verizon.net for more information.
Your comments and feedback are always welcome!
Heartfully,
Linda
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What is EKP?
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is Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy, a heart-centered, body-centered
psychotherapy method Linda Marks developed and has taught and practiced
for nearly twenty years. Working with the heart, touch with permission,
the wisdom of the body and the intuitive guidance of the spirit, EKP
creates a special sense of intimacy that deeply touches and transforms
most all who participate.
Participants can be "client," witness
or helper as an individual group member has a "turn" to do deeper
heart-centered, body-centered psychospiritual work in the center. Since
the electromagnetic field of the heart extends out 10 - 12 feet from our
bodies, as we go deeper and open our hearts, we are all touched.
EKP
helps restore our capacity as organs of perception. The skin is our
largest organ, and a source of soul deep knowing, perception and
expression. When our hearts and hands can work as one, we move beyond
defenses safely and respectfully and find freedom, connection and
expression. | Linda Marks, MSM |
Emotional
safety is the foundation of EKP. When we are emotionally safe, we are
more aware of feelings, sensations and deeper thoughts in our bodies and
hearts. You will have a chance to listen to and care for your heart as
you help create and hold a safe healing space for everyone's heart.
Experience what we mean when we say that in EKP, "when anyone has a turn, everyone has a turn."
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When Forgiveness Is Not Good for the Forgiver |
We
often hear that forgiveness is a virtue and is always something to
aspire to. Forgiveness leaves people happier and healthier that those
who ruminate and hold grudges. The theory goes, that if you can
forgive, you can forget.
This may be true in many
cases, but according to research by Jim McNulty at the Florida State
University in Tallahassee, forgiveness can also have its costs. If the
person you are forgiving repeats their troubling behavior or takes your
forgiveness as a license to behave badly again, there is danger that the
forgiver can turn into a "doormat," rather than a hero.
To read this entire article...
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Workshops: Community As Healer and Meeting Our Basic Human Needs |
Community As Healer Saturday, November 10 from 1 - 4 pm in Newton Sunday, December 9 from 1 - 4 pm in Newton
$50
suggested donation will go to Boys to Men New England, the Life Is Good
Kids Foundation and other organizations committed to making the world
better for children.
Be part of a
healing village doing EKP (Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy)
body-centered psychotherapy work in community and see what we mean in
EKP when we say, "when anyone has a turn, everyone has a turn." We will
create a space of emotional safety, incorporating a heart meditation,
facilitated dialogue, and watching body language and non-verbal cues for
the person having a turn.
Learn about
the roles of client, witness and helper in EKP as we create a safe
container with our collective heart field in 20 minute turns. No matter
what role you play, our goal is for you to feel nourished and
supported! Linda Marks, MSM,
is a body psychotherapy coach and mediator who has worked with
individuals, couples, families and groups for 27 years in Newton, MA.
Helping people connect, feel heard and understood so they have
healthier, happier relationships is at the heart of her work. Linda is
committed to creating a better world for children and serves as Board
Co-Chair of Boys to Men New England, serves on the Board of Directors
for Ben Speaks, and serves on the Board of Advisors for the Flo Creed
Jacobson Foundation.
Meeting Our Basic Human Needs: Creating A Village to Support Our Children and Ourselves Friday, November 30 7 - 10 pm in Newton
While
Maslow talked about a hierarchy of needs (with food, shelter and
clothing at the bottom of the pyramid and self-actualization at the
top), in our culture, we often don't think deeply enough about our
emotional and spiritual needs. While meetings our physical needs is
critical for survival, understanding our emotional, spiritual and
relational needs and how to meet them is equally critical to be happy,
healthy and well.
Join
us as we explore our what comprise our "basic human needs," why we so
often don't get our "recommended daily allowance" of most of them, and
what we can do to bring more wellness, connection and joy into our
lives. Creating a village to support us is a key component. And to the
degree that we understand our deeper needs and have them met, we can
also be present to and nurture our children and the children of the
world. For more information or to enroll: Contact Margaret at msarndt@verizon.net
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Male Speak for Females |
When
women speak, do men really hear them? After years of studying
communication patterns between men and women, Allison Armstrong, creator
of the "Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women," workshops discovered that
women may not realize men hear best when spoken to in a more natural
"male language." Given the history of male and female roles in the
evolution of our species, where men were hunters as women tended the
home and hearth, men are biologically wired to solve problems, and focus
on immediate tasks at hand to protect and care for their loved ones.
If a woman uses language that resonates with his desire to protect,
solve and care, her words will be most effectively heard.
Allison looked at what made men and women feel safest. For men, producing creates
safety. When his ability to produce is thwarted, a man will feel a
sense of tension or anxiety. If a man is trusted and respected, he
feels supported in his efforts to produce results.
Women, on the other hand, need connection
to feel safe. When a women can't connect, she may feel at risk, unsafe
and all alone. Attention and interest help a woman feel connected, If
a woman does not feel connected, she will experience tension and
anxiety.
Copyright 2012 Linda Marks
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Creating Better Lives for Kids: Boys to Men, Flo Creed-Jacobson Foundation, BenSpeaks, Life Is Good Kids Foundation |
One of my
greatest commitments is to support organizations that work to make the
world a better place for kids. Four of the organizations I give time to
are Boys to Men New England, the Flo Creed-Jacobson Foundation,
BenSpeaks and the Life Is Good Kids Foundation.
In the months
ahead, I will share more information about each of these important
organizations and the transformational work they are doing. All proceeds from my Community As Healer workshops are donated to these organizations or others like them.
Boys to Men offers adult-teen mentoring in community,
helping teenage boys find their voices and grow into the men they want
to be. We offer a community group that meets regularly, and also help
schools develop school-based programs. Our 2nd Annual "Voices of Boys and Men" Benefit Concert will take place at Scullers Jazz Club on April 21, 2013. To learn more...
I am hosting a J-group meeting at my house on Sunday, November 25 where anyone interested in learning more about this important work is welcome to attend as a guest. Please e-mail me at LSMHEART@aol.com if you would like to attend.
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My first blog at www.heartspacecafe.com/blog
will still be active, but it is built in forum software, which many
people find more cumbersome to use than official "blog" software. In an effort to cultivate more dialogue in more contemporarily relevant ways, my new blog at HealingHeartPower.blogspot.com is user friendly, and even something you can subscribe to. Please let me know what you think of this new blog. |
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