November 1, 2012 

HealingHeartPower Newsletter

Reclaiming the Power of the Heart
In This Issue
When Forgiveness Is Not Good For the Forgiver
Upcoming Workshops: Community As Healer and Meeting Our Basic Human Needs
Male Speak For Females
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About Linda
Me and Flora

Linda Marks, MSM, is pioneer in body psychotherapy who has developed, taught and practiced Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy (EKP) for more than two decades.

Author of LIVING WITH VISION and HEALING THE WAR BETWEEN THE GENDERS, she co-founded the Massachusetts Association of Body Psychotherapists and Counseling Bodyworkers and is the founder of the Boston Area Sexuality and Spirituality Network. She holds degrees from Yale and MIT, and has a vital 16-year-old son.

To find out more about Linda . . .

 HealingHeartPower Calendar
Would you like to learn how to do Emotional Kinesthetic Psychotherapy(EKP)?   

If you would like to apprentice in EKP, you may want to consider participating in a half-day EKP workshop or be part of the Community As Healer group.     


November 3

Integrating Sexuality, Spirituality and Sensuality

MENSA Regional Gathering

Dedham, MA

7 pm


November 10

Community As Healer workshop

Newton, MA

1 - 4 pm


November 30

Meeting Our Basic Human Needs

at David Sneickus' and Margaret Arndt's home

7 - 10 pm


December 9

Community As Healer


Newton, MA 

1 - 4 pm


April 21, 2013

2nd Annual "Voices of Boys and Men" Benefit Concert for Boys to Men New England

Scullers Jazz Club

Boston, MA


If you would like to train in EKP, contact Linda


If you would like to sponsor a

Healing the Traumatized Heart workshop, a Willingness:  The Key to Successful Relationships workshop or a Community As Healer workshop,


Articles in this issue are:  "When Forgiveness Is Not Good for the Forgiver,"exploring when a response other than forgiveness is a healthy choice.
"Male Speak For Females" explores how to bridge the gap between the different languages men and women speak and understand, drawing from the work of Allison Armstrong. 
Two Community As Healer workshops are coming up:  one will be on Saturday, November 10 in Newton, MA from 1 - 4 pm, and the second one will be Sunday, December 9 from 1 - 4 pm.  
All funds raised at these workshops are donated to organizations working to make the world a better place for kids.
Meeting Our Basic Human Needs:  Creating A Village to Support Our Children, will be my next workshop at the home of Margaret Arndt and David Sneickus  at their home in Auburndale.  The workshop will take place  on Friday, November 30 at 7 pm.  Contact for more information.

To help raise the visibility of EKP, I have established a new HealingHeartPower meetup group.  To join our meetup group....


Your comments and feedback are always welcome!    



What is EKP?
EKP is Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy, a heart-centered, body-centered psychotherapy method Linda Marks developed and has taught and practiced for nearly twenty years. Working with the heart, touch with permission, the wisdom of the body and the intuitive guidance of the spirit, EKP creates a special sense of intimacy that deeply touches and transforms most all who participate.

Participants can be "client," witness or helper as an individual group member has a "turn" to do deeper heart-centered, body-centered psychospiritual work in the center. Since the electromagnetic field of the heart extends out 10 - 12 feet from our bodies, as we go deeper and open our hearts, we are all touched.

EKP helps restore our capacity as organs of perception. The skin is our largest organ, and a source of soul deep knowing, perception and expression. When our hearts and hands can work as one, we move beyond defenses safely and respectfully and find freedom, connection and expression.


Beige silk and pearls
Linda Marks, MSM


Emotional safety is the foundation of EKP.  When we are emotionally safe, we are more aware of feelings, sensations and deeper thoughts in our bodies and hearts.  You will have a chance to listen to and care for your heart as you help create and hold a safe healing space for everyone's heart.  Experience what we mean when we say that in EKP, "when anyone has a turn, everyone has a turn."


When Forgiveness Is Not Good for the Forgiver

We often hear that forgiveness is a virtue and is always something to aspire to.  Forgiveness leaves people happier and healthier that those who ruminate and hold grudges.  The theory goes, that if you can forgive, you can forget.


This may be true in many cases, but according to research by Jim McNulty at the Florida State University in Tallahassee, forgiveness can also have its costs.  If the person you are forgiving repeats their troubling behavior or takes your forgiveness as a license to behave badly again, there is danger that the forgiver can turn into a "doormat," rather than a hero.



To read this entire article...



Workshops:  Community As Healer and Meeting Our Basic Human NeedsFind us on Facebook

Community As Healer
Saturday, November 10 from 1 - 4 pm in Newton
Sunday, December 9 from 1 - 4 pm in Newton

$50 suggested donation will go to Boys to Men New England, the Life Is Good Kids Foundation and other organizations committed to making the world better for children.
Be part of a healing village doing EKP (Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy) body-centered psychotherapy work in community and see what we mean in EKP when we say, "when anyone has a turn, everyone has a turn."  We will create a space of emotional safety, incorporating a heart meditation, facilitated dialogue, and watching body language and non-verbal cues for the person having a turn.

Learn about the roles of client, witness and helper in EKP as we create a safe container with our collective heart field in 20 minute turns.  No matter what role you play, our goal is for you to feel nourished and supported!

Linda Marks, MSM, is a body psychotherapy coach and mediator who has worked with individuals, couples, families and groups for 27 years in Newton, MA.  Helping people connect, feel heard and understood so they have healthier, happier relationships is at the heart of her work.   Linda is committed to creating a better world for children and serves as Board Co-Chair of Boys to Men New England, serves on the Board of Directors for Ben Speaks, and serves on the Board of Advisors for the Flo Creed Jacobson Foundation.

Meeting Our Basic Human Needs:  Creating A Village to Support Our Children and Ourselves
Friday, November 30  7 - 10 pm in Newton

While Maslow talked about a hierarchy of needs (with food, shelter and clothing at the bottom of the pyramid and self-actualization at the top), in our culture, we often don't think deeply enough about our emotional and spiritual needs.  While meetings our physical needs is critical for survival, understanding our emotional, spiritual and relational needs and how to meet them is equally critical to be happy, healthy and well.

Join us as we explore our what comprise our "basic human needs," why we so often don't get our "recommended daily allowance" of most of them, and what we can do to bring more wellness, connection and joy into our lives.  Creating a village to support us is a key component.  And to the degree that we understand our deeper needs and have them met, we can also be present to and nurture our children and the children of the world.

 For more information or to enroll:   Contact Margaret at


Male Speak for Females
When women speak, do men really hear them?  After years of studying communication patterns between men and women, Allison Armstrong, creator of the "Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women," workshops discovered that women may not realize men hear best when spoken to in a more natural "male language."  Given the history of male and female roles in the evolution of our species, where men were hunters as women tended the home and hearth, men are biologically wired to solve problems, and focus on immediate tasks at hand to protect and care for their loved ones.  If a woman uses language that resonates with his desire to protect, solve and care, her words will be most effectively heard.

Allison looked at what made men and women feel safest.  For men, producing creates safety.  When his ability to produce is thwarted, a man will feel a sense of tension or anxiety.  If a man is trusted and respected, he feels supported in his efforts to produce results.

Women, on the other hand, need connection to feel safe.  When a women can't connect, she may feel at risk, unsafe and all alone.  Attention and interest help a woman feel connected,  If a woman does not feel connected, she will experience tension and anxiety.

                       To read the entire article 

Copyright 2012 Linda Marks  
Creating Better Lives for Kids:  Boys to Men, Flo Creed-Jacobson Foundation, BenSpeaks, Life Is Good Kids Foundation
One of my greatest commitments is to support organizations that work to make the world a better place for kids.  Four of the organizations I give time to are Boys to Men New England, the Flo Creed-Jacobson Foundation, BenSpeaks and the Life Is Good Kids Foundation.

In the months ahead, I will share more information about each of these important organizations and the transformational work they are doing.  All proceeds from my Community As Healer workshops are donated to these organizations or others like them.

Boys to Men offers adult-teen mentoring in community, helping teenage boys find their voices and grow into the men they want to be.  We offer a community group that meets regularly, and also help schools develop school-based programs.  Our 2nd Annual "Voices of Boys and Men" Benefit Concert will take place at Scullers Jazz Club on April 21, 2013. To learn more...

I am hosting a J-group meeting at my house on Sunday, November 25 where anyone interested in learning more about this important work is welcome to attend as a guest.  Please e-mail me at if you would like to attend.

My first blog at will still be active, but it is built in forum software, which many people find more cumbersome to use than official "blog" software.

In an effort to cultivate more dialogue in more contemporarily relevant ways, my new blog at is user friendly, and even something you can subscribe to.
Please let me know what you think of this new blog.


Linda Marks

phone: (617) 965-7846