October 1, 2012 

HealingHeartPower Newsletter

Reclaiming the Power of the Heart
In This Issue
Meeting Our Basic Human Needs: Creating A Village to Support Our Children and Ourselves
Willingness in Relationships Workshop: Active Listening
Resilience, Self-Worth and Self-Expression: Ben Speaks Louder Than Words
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About Linda
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Linda Marks, MSM, is pioneer in body psychotherapy who has developed, taught and practiced Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy (EKP) for more than two decades.

Author of LIVING WITH VISION and HEALING THE WAR BETWEEN THE GENDERS, she co-founded the Massachusetts Association of Body Psychotherapists and Counseling Bodyworkers and is the founder of the Boston Area Sexuality and Spirituality Network. She holds degrees from Yale and MIT, and has a vital 16-year-old son.

To find out more about Linda . . .

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Would you like to learn how to do Emotional Kinesthetic Psychotherapy(EKP)?   

If you would like to apprentice in EKP, you may want to consider participating in a half-day EKP workshop or be part of the Community As Healer group.     


October 23

Boston Jazz Singers Showcase


Ryles Jazz Club

Cambridge, MA


November 10

Community As Healer workshop

Newton, MA

1 - 4 pm


November 30

Meeting Our Basic Human Needs

at David Sneickus' and Margaret Arndt's home

7 - 10 pm


April 21, 2013

2nd Annual "Voices of Boys and Men" Benefit Concert for Boys to Men New England

Scullers Jazz Club

Boston, MA


If you would like to train in EKP, contact Linda


If you would like to sponsor a

Healing the Traumatized Heart workshop, a Willingness:  The Key to Successful Relationships workshop or a Community As Healer workshop,

contact LSMHEARTaol.com


Articles in this issue are:  Meeting Our Basic Human Needs: Creating a Village to Support Our Children and Ourselvesfocusing on what we REALLY need to survive and thrive as human beings.  Our schools could use a "How to Be A Human Being 101" curriculum.
Resilience, Self-Worth and Self-Expression:  Ben Speaks Louder Than Words,introduces the transformational work Judy Giovangelo is doing, having lost her 18 year old son, Ben, to suicide 4 years ago.
The next Community As Healer workshop will be on Saturday, November 10 in Newton, MA.
Meeting Our Basic Human Needs:  Creating A Village to Support Our Children, will be my next workshop at the home of Margaret Arndt and David Sneickus  at their home in Auburndale.  The workshop will take place  on Friday, November 30 at 7 pm.  Contact msarndt@verizon.net for more information.
I will be singing again at Ryles Jazz Club in Inman Square in Cambridge on Tuesday October 23, in the Boston Jazz Singers Showcase.  Having familiar faces in the audience always makes a world of difference!  The show begins at 8 pm.

To help raise the visibility of EKP, I have established a new HealingHeartPower meetup group.  To join our meetup group....


Your comments and feedback are always welcome!    



What is EKP?
EKP is Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy, a heart-centered, body-centered psychotherapy method Linda Marks developed and has taught and practiced for nearly twenty years. Working with the heart, touch with permission, the wisdom of the body and the intuitive guidance of the spirit, EKP creates a special sense of intimacy that deeply touches and transforms most all who participate.

Participants can be "client," witness or helper as an individual group member has a "turn" to do deeper heart-centered, body-centered psychospiritual work in the center. Since the electromagnetic field of the heart extends out 10 - 12 feet from our bodies, as we go deeper and open our hearts, we are all touched.

EKP helps restore our capacity as organs of perception. The skin is our largest organ, and a source of soul deep knowing, perception and expression. When our hearts and hands can work as one, we move beyond defenses safely and respectfully and find freedom, connection and expression.


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Linda Marks, MSM


Emotional safety is the foundation of EKP.  When we are emotionally safe, we are more aware of feelings, sensations and deeper thoughts in our bodies and hearts.  You will have a chance to listen to and care for your heart as you help create and hold a safe healing space for everyone's heart.  Experience what we mean when we say that in EKP, "when anyone has a turn, everyone has a turn."


 Meeting Our Basic Human Needs:  Creating A Village to Support Our Children
 and Ourselves


While Maslow talked about a hierarchy of needs, in our culture we tend to focus on the bottom of the pyramid, our needs for food, shelter and clothing. We often don't think deeply enough about our emotional and spiritual needs.


 "Self-actualization," which was at the top of Maslow's pyramid, always seemed to be an intangible, hard to grasp concept, unlike the physical and tangible items at the bottom of the pyramid. Clearly, we need food, shelter and clothing to survive, and if our basic survival needs are not met, life is very hard. However, in order to truly live and even thrive, once our food, clothing and shelter needs our met, we have other basic human needs. 


In 1990, my colleague Brian Schulz and I developed a list of6 Basic Human Needs. Each one of them is fairly simple, yet most of us live our lives without our "recommended daily allowance" of most of them:  


1. The need for abundant, nurturing, non-sexual touch and holding. 


2. The need for full expression of emotions and a listener who responds to this expression with warmth, understanding and respect. 


3. The need for play and pleasure. 


4. The need for satisfying creative work. 


5. The need for a satisfying and uninhibited sexual life with a loved and loving partner. 


6. The need for immersion in and contact with the natural environment. 


In a culture that is increasingly virtual, crazy busy, disembodied and moving so fast that many of us lose our grounding, what is basic for the heart and spirit become luxuries or even points of numbness. 



To read this entire article...



Workshops:  Community As Healer and Meeting Our Basic Human NeedsFind us on Facebook

Community As Healer
Saturday, November 10 from 1 - 4 pm in Newton

$50 suggested donation will go to Boys to Men New England, the Life Is Good Kids Foundation and other organizations committed to making the world better for children.
Be part of a healing village doing EKP (Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy) body-centered psychotherapy work in community and see what we mean in EKP when we say, "when anyone has a turn, everyone has a turn."  We will create a space of emotional safety, incorporating a heart meditation, facilitated dialogue, and watching body language and non-verbal cues for the person having a turn.

Learn about the roles of client, witness and helper in EKP as we create a safe container with our collective heart field in 20 minute turns.  No matter what role you play, our goal is for you to feel nourished and supported!

Linda Marks, MSM, is a body psychotherapy coach and mediator who has worked with individuals, couples, families and groups for 27 years in Newton, MA.  Helping people connect, feel heard and understood so they have healthier, happier relationships is at the heart of her work.   Linda is committed to creating a better world for children and serves as Board Co-Chair of Boys to Men New England, serves on the Board of Directors for Ben Speaks, and serves on the Board of Advisors for the Flo Creed Jacobson Foundation.

Meeting Our Basic Human Needs:  Creating A Village to Support Our Children and Ourselves
Friday, November 30  7 - 10 pm in Newton

While Maslow talked about a hierarchy of needs (with food, shelter and clothing at the bottom of the pyramid and self-actualization at the top), in our culture, we often don't think deeply enough about our emotional and spiritual needs.  While meetings our physical needs is critical for survival, understanding our emotional, spiritual and relational needs and how to meet them is equally critical to be happy, healthy and well.

Join us as we explore our what comprise our "basic human needs," why we so often don't get our "recommended daily allowance" of most of them, and what we can do to bring more wellness, connection and joy into our lives.  Creating a village to support us is a key component.  And to the degree that we understand our deeper needs and have them met, we can also be present to and nurture our children and the children of the world.

 For more information or to enroll:   Contact Margaret at msarndt@verizon.net


Resilience, Self-Worth and Self-Expression:  Ben Speaks Louder Than Words
To feel happy, healthy and connected, most human beings need to feel loved and seen for who they truly are. This is particularly true for children, who grow best and thrive when they are in environments that cultivate their authentic selves in a safe, respectful way. 

Something has broken down tremendously in today's world, where bullying is epidemic from the playground to the boardroom, cutting across age, class, and education level. While we use the phrase "dog eat dog world," I have never seen two dogs attack one another with the intensity and impact of two human beings. We truly live in a "human eat human world," and the consequences are grave for our children as well as ourselves. 

Judy Giovangelo is working to make a transformational change in the tectonic plates that govern the socio-emotional practices in our schools, in our homes and in our culture at large. She founded Ben Speakes Louder Than Words after losing her middle son, Ben, to suicide on April 16, 2009

                      To read the entire article 

Copyright 2012 Linda Marks  
Creating Better Lives for Kids:  Boys to Men and Life Is Good Kids Foundation
Boys to Men offers adult-teen mentoring in community, helping teenage boys find their voices and grow into the men they want to be.  We offer a community group that meets regularly, and also help schools develop school-based programs.  Our 2nd Annual "Voices of Boys and Men" Benefit Concert will take place at Scullers Jazz Club on April 21, 2013. To learn more...

I am hosting a barbecue at my house on Sunday, July 8 for anyone interested in learning more about this important work, and particularly for anyone who might wish to consider being a mentor.  Please e-mail me at LSMHEART@aol.com if you would like to attend.

The Life Is Good Foundation is dedicated to helping kids overcome poverty, violence and illness.  The Life is Good Festival September 22 - 23 is a fundraiser for this important work.  I have to decided I would like to raise money to contribute to the Life is Good Foundation.  If you would like to make a donation, please send a check of any amount (from $1 to $1000 plus) payable to Life Is Good Kids Foundation, to me at 3 Central Avenue, Newton, MA 02460.  Include any wishes you might want to send along.  I will gather checks and wishes and send them in to the foundation!  Thanks for your support!  To learn more...
My first blog at www.heartspacecafe.com/blog will still be active, but it is built in forum software, which many people find more cumbersome to use than official "blog" software.

In an effort to cultivate more dialogue in more contemporarily relevant ways, my new blog at HealingHeartPower.blogspot.com is user friendly, and even something you can subscribe to.
Please let me know what you think of this new blog.


Linda Marks

email: lsmheart@aol.com
phone: (617) 965-7846
web: www.HealingHeartPower.com