September 1, 2012
Reclaiming the Power of the Heart
Marks, MSM, is pioneer in body psychotherapy who has developed, taught
and practiced Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy (EKP) for more than
two decades. Author of LIVING WITH VISION and HEALING THE WAR BETWEEN THE GENDERS,
she co-founded the Massachusetts Association of Body Psychotherapists
and Counseling Bodyworkers and is the founder of the Boston Area
Sexuality and Spirituality Network. She holds degrees from Yale and MIT,
and has a vital 16-year-old son.
To find out more about Linda . . .
| HealingHeartPower Calendar|
If you would like to apprentice in EKP, you may want to consider participating in a half-day EKP workshop or be part of the Community As Healer group.
at David Sneickus and Margaret Arndt's home
September 22 - 23
Life Is Good Festival
Community As Healer Clinic Workshop
Natural Living Expo
Boston Jazz Singers Showcase
Ryles Jazz Club
April 21, 2013
2nd Annual "Voices of Boys and Men" Benefit Concert for Boys to Men New England
Scullers Jazz Club
If you would like to train in EKP, contact Linda
If you would like to sponsor a
Healing the Traumatized Heart workshop, a Willingness: The Key to Successful Relationships workshop or a Community As Healer workshop,
Articles in this issue are: Heros and Bystanders, exploring what human qualities lead one to move into action in a critical situation, rather than sitting on the sidelines, and
Men, Women, Space and Power, looking
at the importance of maintaining our truth even in the face of
difference with a beloved friend or partner. We should not have to give
up our truth to be loved, even though we want to make our loved ones
Active Listening is the next workshop in the Willingness: The Key to Successful Relationships series
that I have been offering at the home of Margaret Arndt and David
Sneickus at their home in Auburndale. The workshop will take place on Friday, September 21 at 7 pm. Contact email@example.com for more information.
I will be singing again at Ryles Jazz Club in Inman Square in Cambridge on Tuesday October 23, in the Boston Jazz Singers Showcase. Having familiar faces in the audience always makes a world of difference! The show begins at 8 pm.
Your comments and feedback are always welcome!
|What is EKP?|
is Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy, a heart-centered, body-centered
psychotherapy method Linda Marks developed and has taught and practiced
for nearly twenty years. Working with the heart, touch with permission,
the wisdom of the body and the intuitive guidance of the spirit, EKP
creates a special sense of intimacy that deeply touches and transforms
most all who participate.
Participants can be "client," witness
or helper as an individual group member has a "turn" to do deeper
heart-centered, body-centered psychospiritual work in the center. Since
the electromagnetic field of the heart extends out 10 - 12 feet from our
bodies, as we go deeper and open our hearts, we are all touched.
helps restore our capacity as organs of perception. The skin is our
largest organ, and a source of soul deep knowing, perception and
expression. When our hearts and hands can work as one, we move beyond
defenses safely and respectfully and find freedom, connection and
|Linda Marks, MSM|
safety is the foundation of EKP. When we are emotionally safe, we are
more aware of feelings, sensations and deeper thoughts in our bodies and
hearts. You will have a chance to listen to and care for your heart as
you help create and hold a safe healing space for everyone's heart.
Experience what we mean when we say that in EKP, "when anyone has a turn, everyone has a turn."
| Women, Men, Space and Power: Not Giving Up Me to Be Loved By You|
When my colleague Margaret Paul wrote the book Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By You,
with her now ex-husband Jordan Paul, that title always struck a chord
in me. As a woman, I was raised to "please my man," which meant being
nurturing and submissive and putting his needs ahead of mine in the name
of love. For many, many years, I tried hard to be a "good woman," a
"good wife," and a "good partner," yet instead of being valued and
appreciated for my goodness, I would find myself being taken for
granted. One of my friends even gave me a book on "how to be a bitch,"
thinking it would help me get better results with the men in my life!
Men seek to show their
love by pleasing the women they love, and in doing so, often give up
some of their core masculine power, ending up feeling unappreciated and
taken for granted in the same way I did as a "good, loving woman."
Over time, what has
become clearer and clearer is that the juice in relationships is most
juicy when we stay true to ourselves and our core sense of power.
Rather than just trying to please the other person, it is critical that
we stay anchored in ourselves. A good man who wants to make his woman
happy, might go over his own edge and cave in on who he is and what he
needs, an important lesson for women and men both from the work of
To read this entire article...
|Workshops: Willingness in Relationships: Learning to Love Another Person on Their Own Terms|
have been doing a series of workshops at the home of Margaret Arndt and
David Sneickus in Auburndale, building on the theme of willingness in
relationships. The next workshop is on Friday, September 14.
Active Listening: A Key to Being Heard and Connected in Relationship
- Do you ever speak to someone you care about (a close friend, a family member or partner) and feel unheard?
you ever been in a conversation where you and the other person become
more and more frustrated, because it seems that you each feel "they just
don't get it?"
While, in theory, we know it is important to listen when another
person speaks, we are never taught the fundamentals of what it takes to
not only heart what another person s saying, but also to be sure that
what we have heard is what they have said.
Active listening is a key skill that allows us to be sure we
have heard what the other person has said correctly, and that they other
person feels that we have "got it" or "got them." Active listening
increases connection in relationship and can be the difference between a
hopeless conflict and true intimacy.
this workshop, Linda will not only teach the fundamentals for active
listening, but give you a chance to try them on and build your skills
MSM is a body psychotherapist, coach and mediator and has worked with
individuals, couples, families and groups for 27 years in Newton, MA.
Helping people connect, feel heard and understood, so they have
healthier, happier relationships is at the heart of her work.
For more information or to enroll: Contact Margaret at firstname.lastname@example.org
|Heroes and Bystanders|
If someone you knew were in danger, what would you do? Would you
call for help? Would you risk your life? Would you be so overwhelmed
that you would just sit there like a deer in front of the headlights?
A 2009 study led by Sara Staats, a professor emeritus at Ohio
State University in Newark found that empathy, care or concern for
others runs high amongst people with "heroic tendencies." What kinds
of traits might you find in someone who is more likely to help another
person in a car crash, a personal crisis or another kind of emergency?
- a tendency to frame events positively and expect good outcomes
- a strong sense of ethics
- above average coping skills
- a belief in their ability to tackle challenges and beat the odds
Copyright 2012 Linda Marks
|Creating Better Lives for Kids: Boys to Men and Life Is Good Kids Foundation|
|Boys to Men
offers adult-teen mentoring in community,
helping teenage boys find their voices and grow into the men they want
to be. We offer a community group that meets regularly, and also help
schools develop school-based programs. Our 2nd Annual "Voices of Boys and Men" Benefit Concert
will take place at Scullers Jazz Club on April 21, 2013. To learn more...
I am hosting a barbecue at my house on Sunday, July 8
for anyone interested in learning more about this important work, and
particularly for anyone who might wish to consider being a mentor.
Please e-mail me at LSMHEART@aol.com if you would like to attend.
The Life Is Good Foundation is
dedicated to helping kids overcome poverty, violence and illness. The
Life is Good Festival September 22 - 23 is a fundraiser for this
important work. I have to decided I would like to raise money to
contribute to the Life is Good Foundation. If you would like to
make a donation, please send a check of any amount (from $1 to $1000
plus) payable to Life Is Good Kids Foundation, to me at 3 Central
Avenue, Newton, MA 02460. Include any wishes you might want to
send along. I will gather checks and wishes and send them in to the
foundation! Thanks for your support! To learn more...
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