September 1, 2012 

HealingHeartPower Newsletter

Reclaiming the Power of the Heart
In This Issue
Women, Men, Space and Power: Not Giving Up Me to Be Loved By You
Willingness in Relationships Workshop: Active Listening
Heroes and Bystanders
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About Linda
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Linda Marks, MSM, is pioneer in body psychotherapy who has developed, taught and practiced Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy (EKP) for more than two decades.

Author of LIVING WITH VISION and HEALING THE WAR BETWEEN THE GENDERS, she co-founded the Massachusetts Association of Body Psychotherapists and Counseling Bodyworkers and is the founder of the Boston Area Sexuality and Spirituality Network. She holds degrees from Yale and MIT, and has a vital 16-year-old son.

To find out more about Linda . . .

 HealingHeartPower Calendar
Would you like to learn how to do Emotional Kinesthetic Psychotherapy(EKP)?   

If you would like to apprentice in EKP, you may want to consider participating in a half-day EKP workshop or be part of the Community As Healer group.     



September 21

Active Listening

at David Sneickus and Margaret Arndt's home

Newton, MA


September 22 - 23

Life Is Good Festival

Canton, MA


September 29

Community As Healer Clinic Workshop

Natural Living Expo

Sturbridge, MA


October 23

Boston Jazz Singers Showcase


Ryles Jazz Club

Cambridge, MA


April 21, 2013

2nd Annual "Voices of Boys and Men" Benefit Concert for Boys to Men New England

Scullers Jazz Club

Boston, MA


If you would like to train in EKP, contact Linda


If you would like to sponsor a

Healing the Traumatized Heart workshop, a Willingness:  The Key to Successful Relationships workshop or a Community As Healer workshop,



Articles in this issue are:  Heros and Bystanders, exploring what human qualities lead one to move into action in a critical situation, rather than sitting on the sidelines, and
Men, Women, Space and Power, looking at the importance of maintaining our truth even in the face of difference with a beloved friend or partner.  We should not have to give up our truth to be loved, even though we want to make our loved ones happy.
Active Listening is the next workshop in the Willingness: The Key to Successful Relationships series that I have been offering at the home of Margaret Arndt and David Sneickus  at their home in Auburndale.  The workshop will take place  on Friday, September 21 at 7 pm.  Contact for more information.
I will be singing again at Ryles Jazz Club in Inman Square in Cambridge on Tuesday October 23, in the Boston Jazz Singers Showcase.  Having familiar faces in the audience always makes a world of difference!  The show begins at 8 pm.

To help raise the visibility of EKP, I have established a new HealingHeartPower meetup group.  To join our meetup group....


Your comments and feedback are always welcome!    



What is EKP?
EKP is Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy, a heart-centered, body-centered psychotherapy method Linda Marks developed and has taught and practiced for nearly twenty years. Working with the heart, touch with permission, the wisdom of the body and the intuitive guidance of the spirit, EKP creates a special sense of intimacy that deeply touches and transforms most all who participate.

Participants can be "client," witness or helper as an individual group member has a "turn" to do deeper heart-centered, body-centered psychospiritual work in the center. Since the electromagnetic field of the heart extends out 10 - 12 feet from our bodies, as we go deeper and open our hearts, we are all touched.

EKP helps restore our capacity as organs of perception. The skin is our largest organ, and a source of soul deep knowing, perception and expression. When our hearts and hands can work as one, we move beyond defenses safely and respectfully and find freedom, connection and expression.


Beige silk and pearls
Linda Marks, MSM


Emotional safety is the foundation of EKP.  When we are emotionally safe, we are more aware of feelings, sensations and deeper thoughts in our bodies and hearts.  You will have a chance to listen to and care for your heart as you help create and hold a safe healing space for everyone's heart.  Experience what we mean when we say that in EKP, "when anyone has a turn, everyone has a turn."


 Women, Men, Space and Power:  Not Giving  Up Me to Be Loved By You


 When my colleague Margaret Paul wrote the book Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By You, with her now ex-husband Jordan Paul, that title always struck a chord in me.  As a woman, I was raised to "please my man," which meant being nurturing and submissive and putting his needs ahead of mine in the name of love.  For many, many years, I tried hard to be a "good woman," a "good wife," and a "good partner,"  yet instead of being valued and appreciated for my goodness, I would find myself being taken for granted.  One of my friends even gave me a book on "how to be a bitch," thinking it would help me get better results with the men in my life!


Men seek to show their love by pleasing the women they love, and in doing so, often give up some of their core masculine power, ending up feeling unappreciated and taken for granted in the same way I did as a "good, loving woman."


Over time, what has become clearer and clearer is that the juice in relationships is most juicy when we stay true to ourselves and our core sense of power.  Rather than just trying to please the other person, it is critical that we stay anchored in ourselves.  A good man who wants to make his woman happy, might go over his own edge and cave in on who he is and what he needs, an important lesson for women and men both from the work of Allison Armstrong.





To read this entire article...



Workshops:  Willingness  in Relationships:  Learning to Love Another Person on Their Own TermsFind us on Facebook

I have been doing a series of workshops at the home of Margaret Arndt and David Sneickus in Auburndale, building on the theme of willingness in relationships.  The next workshop is on Friday, September 14.

Active Listening: A Key to Being Heard and Connected in Relationship

  •  Do you ever speak to someone you care about (a close friend, a family member or partner) and feel unheard?  
  • Have you ever been in a conversation where you and the other person become more and more frustrated, because it seems that you each feel "they just don't get it?"  
While, in theory, we know it is important to listen when another person speaks, we are never taught the fundamentals of what it takes to not only heart what another person s saying, but also to be sure that what we have heard is what they have said.

Active listening is a key skill that allows us to be sure we have heard what the other person has said correctly, and that they other person feels that we have "got it" or "got them."  Active listening increases connection in relationship and can be the difference between a hopeless conflict and true intimacy.
In this workshop, Linda will not only teach the fundamentals for active listening, but give you a chance to try them on and build your skills real-time.
Linda Marks, MSM is a body psychotherapist, coach and mediator and has worked with individuals, couples, families and groups for 27 years in Newton, MA.  Helping people connect, feel heard and understood, so they have healthier, happier relationships is at the heart of her work.

 For more information or to enroll:   Contact Margaret at


Heroes and Bystanders
If someone you knew were in danger, what would you do?  Would you call for help?  Would you risk your life?  Would you be so overwhelmed that you would just sit there like a deer in front of the headlights?

A 2009 study led by Sara Staats, a professor emeritus at Ohio State University in Newark found that empathy, care or concern for others runs high amongst people with "heroic tendencies."    What kinds of traits might you find in someone who is more likely to help another person in a car crash, a personal crisis or another kind of emergency?

  • a tendency to frame events positively and expect good outcomes
  • a strong sense of ethics
  • above average coping skills
  • a belief in their ability to tackle challenges and beat the odds

                           To read the entire article

Copyright 2012 Linda Marks  
Creating Better Lives for Kids:  Boys to Men and Life Is Good Kids Foundation
Boys to Men offers adult-teen mentoring in community, helping teenage boys find their voices and grow into the men they want to be.  We offer a community group that meets regularly, and also help schools develop school-based programs.  Our 2nd Annual "Voices of Boys and Men" Benefit Concert will take place at Scullers Jazz Club on April 21, 2013. To learn more...

I am hosting a barbecue at my house on Sunday, July 8 for anyone interested in learning more about this important work, and particularly for anyone who might wish to consider being a mentor.  Please e-mail me at if you would like to attend.

The Life Is Good Foundation is dedicated to helping kids overcome poverty, violence and illness.  The Life is Good Festival September 22 - 23 is a fundraiser for this important work.  I have to decided I would like to raise money to contribute to the Life is Good Foundation.  If you would like to make a donation, please send a check of any amount (from $1 to $1000 plus) payable to Life Is Good Kids Foundation, to me at 3 Central Avenue, Newton, MA 02460.  Include any wishes you might want to send along.  I will gather checks and wishes and send them in to the foundation!  Thanks for your support!  To learn more...
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Linda Marks

phone: (617) 965-7846