 August 1, 2012
HealingHeartPower Newsletter
Reclaiming the Power of the Heart |
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About Linda
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Linda
Marks, MSM, is pioneer in body psychotherapy who has developed, taught
and practiced Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy (EKP) for more than
two decades. Author of LIVING WITH VISION and HEALING THE WAR BETWEEN THE GENDERS,
she co-founded the Massachusetts Association of Body Psychotherapists
and Counseling Bodyworkers and is the founder of the Boston Area
Sexuality and Spirituality Network. She holds degrees from Yale and MIT,
and has a vital 16-year-old son.
To find out more about Linda . . .
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HealingHeartPower Calendar
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If you would like to apprentice in EKP, you may want to consider participating in a half-day EKP workshop or be part of the Community As Healer group.
August 4
HAI Cabaret
Hollis, NH
August 11
Community As Healer
Presentation at
United States Association for Body Psychotherapy National Conference
Boulder, CO
September 11
Boston Jazz Singers Showcase
8 pm
Ryles Jazz Club
Cambridge, MA
September 21
Active Listening
at David Sneickus and Margaret Arndt's home
Newton, MA
September 22 - 23
Life Is Good Festival
Canton, MA
September 29
Community As Healer Clinic Workshop
Natural Living Expo
Sturbridge, MA
April 21, 2013
2nd Annual "Voices of Boys and Men" Benefit Concert for Boys to Men New England
Scullers Jazz Club
Boston, MA
If you would like to train in EKP, contact Linda
If you would like to sponsor a
Healing the Traumatized Heart workshop, a Willingness: The Key to Successful Relationships workshop or a Community As Healer workshop,
contact LSMHEARTaol.com
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How Grace Grows Power, exploring the idea that power actually grows more potent and elegant as we embody more grace and humility.
Active Listening is the next workshop in the Willingness: The Key to Successful Relationships series
that I have been offering at the home of Margaret Arndt and David
Sneickus at their home in Auburndale. The workshop will take place on Friday, September 21 at 7 pm. Contact msarndt@verizon.net for more information.
I will be singing again at Ryles Jazz Club in Inman Square in Cambridge on Friday, September 11, in the Boston Jazz Singers Showcase. Having familiar faces in the audience always makes a world of difference! The show begins at 8 pm.
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will be presenting a Community As Healer workshop at the United States
Association of Body Psychotherapy's national conference in Boulder, CO
on August 11. It will be wonderful to reunite with EKP grad Gretchen
Stecher, who will help staff the workshop.
Your comments and feedback are always welcome!
Heartfully,
Linda
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What is EKP?
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is Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy, a heart-centered, body-centered
psychotherapy method Linda Marks developed and has taught and practiced
for nearly twenty years. Working with the heart, touch with permission,
the wisdom of the body and the intuitive guidance of the spirit, EKP
creates a special sense of intimacy that deeply touches and transforms
most all who participate.
Participants can be "client," witness
or helper as an individual group member has a "turn" to do deeper
heart-centered, body-centered psychospiritual work in the center. Since
the electromagnetic field of the heart extends out 10 - 12 feet from our
bodies, as we go deeper and open our hearts, we are all touched.
EKP
helps restore our capacity as organs of perception. The skin is our
largest organ, and a source of soul deep knowing, perception and
expression. When our hearts and hands can work as one, we move beyond
defenses safely and respectfully and find freedom, connection and
expression.  | | Linda Marks, MSM |
Emotional
safety is the foundation of EKP. When we are emotionally safe, we are
more aware of feelings, sensations and deeper thoughts in our bodies and
hearts. You will have a chance to listen to and care for your heart as
you help create and hold a safe healing space for everyone's heart.
Experience what we mean when we say that in EKP, "when anyone has a turn, everyone has a turn."
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Efemination: A Female Parallel to Emasculation
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When I started
interviewing men for my book Healing the War Between the Genders: The
Power of the Soul-Centered Relationship, one theme I heard frequently
from the men I interviewed was how women, on the one hand, complained
that men never talked or shared their feelings, yet on the other hand,
if they did take the risk of talking, interrupted them, judged them, and
got angry at them rather than just listening and honoring them for
speaking.
The issue of men feeling
emasculated by the women in their lives surfaced as an important theme.
Men need to be trusted and feel honored by the women in their lives.
Men want to make women happy and they need clear targets to succeed in
doing so. If rather than giving a man a clear sense of what will make
her happy and then appreciating him when he does exactly what she asked,
a woman just complains and focuses on all the things the man isn't
doing right, the woman undermines the man's innate sense of power and
masculinity.
Recently, I have begun
to realize that just as women can emasculate men--meaning, undermine the
man's innate sense of power and masculinity, men can undermine a
woman's innate sense of power and femininity as well. However, I have
never encountered a word for this. So, I am choosing to coin one:
"efemination."
To read this entire article...
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Workshops: Willingness in Relationships: Learning to Love Another Person on Their Own Terms |
I
have been doing a series of workshops at the home of Margaret Arndt and
David Sneickus in Auburndale, building on the theme of willingness in
relationships. The next workshop is on Friday, September 14.
Active Listening: A Key to Being Heard and Connected in Relationship
- Do you ever speak to someone you care about (a close friend, a family member or partner) and feel unheard?
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you ever been in a conversation where you and the other person become
more and more frustrated, because it seems that you each feel "they just
don't get it?"
While, in theory, we know it is important to listen when another
person speaks, we are never taught the fundamentals of what it takes to
not only heart what another person s saying, but also to be sure that
what we have heard is what they have said.
Active listening is a key skill that allows us to be sure we
have heard what the other person has said correctly, and that they other
person feels that we have "got it" or "got them." Active listening
increases connection in relationship and can be the difference between a
hopeless conflict and true intimacy. In
this workshop, Linda will not only teach the fundamentals for active
listening, but give you a chance to try them on and build your skills
real-time. Linda Marks,
MSM is a body psychotherapist, coach and mediator and has worked with
individuals, couples, families and groups for 27 years in Newton, MA.
Helping people connect, feel heard and understood, so they have
healthier, happier relationships is at the heart of her work. For more information or to enroll: Contact Margaret at msarndt@verizon.net
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| How Grace Grows Power |
I have always liked the image of the leader who exercises his
or her power by helping other people learn to lead themselves. Some of
the greatest teachers I have had have also been the most humble.
Thomas Berry, a great theologian, who I was fortunate enough to
dialogue with when I was writing my first book, Living With Vision: Reclaiming the Power of the Heart impressed me with his grace and humility, which only fortified his wisdom and his impact on me.
When a leader puts a graceful foot forward, his/her message
is most easy to receive and digest. Sadly, we have too many examples of
heavy handed leadership, and the kind of power that is traded in a zero
sum game. In this model of power, if I have more power, you have less.
If you take up the lead, I am threatened, because I move down the
ladder on the food chain. Heavy handed leadership disempowers in the
long run, and sometimes in the short run.
Copyright 2012 Linda Marks
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| Creating Better Lives for Kids: Boys to Men and Life Is Good Kids Foundation |
Boys to Men offers adult-teen mentoring in community,
helping teenage boys find their voices and grow into the men they want
to be. We offer a community group that meets regularly, and also help
schools develop school-based programs. Our 2nd Annual "Voices of Boys and Men" Benefit Concert will take place at Scullers Jazz Club on April 21, 2013. To learn more...
I am hosting a barbecue at my house on Sunday, July 8
for anyone interested in learning more about this important work, and
particularly for anyone who might wish to consider being a mentor.
Please e-mail me at LSMHEART@aol.com if you would like to attend.
The Life Is Good Foundation is
dedicated to helping kids overcome poverty, violence and illness. The
Life is Good Festival September 22 - 23 is a fundraiser for this
important work. I have to decided I would like to raise money to
contribute to the Life is Good Foundation. If you would like to
make a donation, please send a check of any amount (from $1 to $1000
plus) payable to Life Is Good Kids Foundation, to me at 3 Central
Avenue, Newton, MA 02460. Include any wishes you might want to
send along. I will gather checks and wishes and send them in to the
foundation! Thanks for your support! To learn more... |
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My first blog at www.heartspacecafe.com/blog
will still be active, but it is built in forum software, which many
people find more cumbersome to use than official "blog" software. In an effort to cultivate more dialogue in more contemporarily relevant ways, my new blog at HealingHeartPower.blogspot.com is user friendly, and even something you can subscribe to. Please let me know what you think of this new blog. |
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I
am VERY excited to announce that I have been work on producing the 2nd
Annual "Voices of Boys and Men" Benefit Concert for Boys to Men New
England at Scullers Jazz Club on April 21, 2013. This year's event
promises to be even more amazing than last year's!