June 1, 2012 

HealingHeartPower Newsletter

Reclaiming the Power of the Heart
In This Issue
Children Learn What They Live
Willingness in Relationships Workshop: Transforming Barriers to Intimacy
Don't Cry Out Loud: Living Unhappily Ever After
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About Linda
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Linda Marks, MSM, is pioneer in body psychotherapy who has developed, taught and practiced Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy (EKP) for more than two decades.

Author of LIVING WITH VISION and HEALING THE WAR BETWEEN THE GENDERS, she co-founded the Massachusetts Association of Body Psychotherapists and Counseling Bodyworkers and is the founder of the Boston Area Sexuality and Spirituality Network. She holds degrees from Yale and MIT, and has a vital 16-year-old son.

To find out more about Linda . . .

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Would you like to learn how to do Emotional Kinesthetic Psychotherapy(EKP)?   

If you would like to apprentice in EKP, you may want to consider participating in a half-day EKP workshop or be part of the Community As Healer group.     


June 19

Boston Jazz Singers Showcase

8 pm 

Ryles Jazz Club

Cambridge, MA


July 18

Dealing With Difficult People

at the home of Margaret

Arndt and David Sneickus

Newton, MA


If you would like to train in EKP, contact Linda


If you would like to sponsor a

Healing the Traumatized Heart workshop, a Willingness:  The Key to Successful Relationships workshop or a Community As Healer workshop,

contact LSMHEARTaol.com



WelcomeArticles in this issue are:  "Children Learn What They Live" a poem that "Voices of Boys and Men" Keynote Speaker Kim Odom referenced, that is full of essential truth,  and "Don't Cry Out Loud:  Living Unhappily Ever After" reflecting on all the limits we put on authentic emotional experience, and the often far too hidden costs of doing so.
Dealing With Difficult People is the next workshop in the Willingness: The Key to Successful Relationships series that I have been offering at the home of Margaret Arndt and David Sneickus  at their home in Auburndale.  The workshop will take place  on Friday, July 18 at 7 pm.  Contact msarndt@verizon.net for more information.
I will be singing in the Boston Singer Showcase at Ryles Jazz Club in Inman Square in Cambridge on Tuesday, June 19.  Having familiar faces in the audience always makes a world of difference!  The show begins at 8 pm.

To help raise the visibility of EKP, I have established a new HealingHeartPower meetup group.  To join our meetup group....


Your comments and feedback are always welcome!    



What is EKP?
EKP is Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy, a heart-centered, body-centered psychotherapy method Linda Marks developed and has taught and practiced for nearly twenty years. Working with the heart, touch with permission, the wisdom of the body and the intuitive guidance of the spirit, EKP creates a special sense of intimacy that deeply touches and transforms most all who participate.

Participants can be "client," witness or helper as an individual group member has a "turn" to do deeper heart-centered, body-centered psychospiritual work in the center. Since the electromagnetic field of the heart extends out 10 - 12 feet from our bodies, as we go deeper and open our hearts, we are all touched.

EKP helps restore our capacity as organs of perception. The skin is our largest organ, and a source of soul deep knowing, perception and expression. When our hearts and hands can work as one, we move beyond defenses safely and respectfully and find freedom, connection and expression.


Beige silk and pearls
Linda Marks, MSM


Emotional safety is the foundation of EKP.  When we are emotionally safe, we are more aware of feelings, sensations and deeper thoughts in our bodies and hearts.  You will have a chance to listen to and care for your heart as you help create and hold a safe healing space for everyone's heart.  Experience what we mean when we say that in EKP, "when anyone has a turn, everyone has a turn."


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Children Learn What They Live  By Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

Copyright 1972 by Dorothy Law Nolte




To read this entire article...



Workshops:  Willingness  in Relationships:  Learning to Love Another Person on Their Own TermsFind us on Facebook

I have been doing a series of workshops at the home of Margaret Arndt and David Sneickus in Auburndale, building on the theme of willingness in relationships.  The next workshop is on Friday, July 18..

Dealing With Difficult People

Are the people we refer to as "difficult," really difficult?  Or do some of their actions, inactions, behaviors or words just trigger us so deeply that we are really uncomfortable?  How can we see what part is ours and what part is theirs?  Some behaviors really ARE difficult, and learning how to work with difficult behaviors is a very valuable skill.  Learning how the "difficult" people in our life also offer a mirror for us to more deeply consider our own growing edges and triggers is equally valuable.


In this workshop, we will explore what makes someone "difficult," how "difficult" behavior effects us, and what we can do to both be and feel more effective in "difficult" situations.    Contact Margaret at msarndt@verizon.net


Don't Cry Out Loud:  Living Unhappily Ever After
This past month I had the opportunity to see songstress Melissa Manchester perform at Scullers Jazz Club.  Her songs are really powerful and her delivery soul-rendering.  One of the songs she is best known for may be described as the American emotional national-anthem, written by Carole Bayer Sager, "Don't cry out loud."  From an early age, when our sensitive hearts are hurt, scared or disappointed, the adults around us get uncomfortable, and tell us to stop it, to keep our feelings in check.  In essence, we are taught exactly what "baby" in the song is taught:  "don't cry out loud...just keep it inside...got to learn how to hide your feelings..."

This may "look good" on the outside and allow us to appear to "fly high and proud," but inside, it sets us up for a life of silent suffering, isolation and the epidemic of anxiety and depression that permeates our culture.

On the other hand, we are enamored with "positive psychology," to reinforce that everything is better if we only look at the bright side.  A wonderfully insightful article in the Wall St Journal, entitled, "How to Live Unhappily Ever After," challenges our obsession with the positive.

                              To read the entire article 

Copyright 2012 Linda Marks  
My first blog at www.heartspacecafe.com/blog will still be active, but it is built in forum software, which many people find more cumbersome to use than official "blog" software.

In an effort to cultivate more dialogue in more contemporarily relevant ways, my new blog at HealingHeartPower.blogspot.com is user friendly, and even something you can subscribe to.
Please let me know what you think of this new blog.


Linda Marks

email: lsmheart@aol.com
phone: (617) 965-7846
web: www.HealingHeartPower.com