June 1, 2012
Reclaiming the Power of the Heart
Marks, MSM, is pioneer in body psychotherapy who has developed, taught
and practiced Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy (EKP) for more than
two decades. Author of LIVING WITH VISION and HEALING THE WAR BETWEEN THE GENDERS,
she co-founded the Massachusetts Association of Body Psychotherapists
and Counseling Bodyworkers and is the founder of the Boston Area
Sexuality and Spirituality Network. She holds degrees from Yale and MIT,
and has a vital 16-year-old son.
To find out more about Linda . . .
| HealingHeartPower Calendar|
If you would like to apprentice in EKP, you may want to consider participating in a half-day EKP workshop or be part of the Community As Healer group.
Boston Jazz Singers Showcase
Ryles Jazz Club
Dealing With Difficult People
at the home of Margaret
Arndt and David Sneickus
If you would like to train in EKP, contact Linda
If you would like to sponsor a
Healing the Traumatized Heart workshop, a Willingness: The Key to Successful Relationships workshop or a Community As Healer workshop,
Articles in this issue are: "Children Learn What They Live" a poem that "Voices of Boys and Men" Keynote Speaker Kim Odom referenced, that is full of essential truth, and "Don't Cry Out Loud: Living Unhappily Ever After" reflecting on all the limits we put on authentic emotional experience, and the often far too hidden costs of doing so.
Dealing With Difficult People is the next workshop in the Willingness: The Key to Successful Relationships series
that I have been offering at the home of Margaret Arndt and David
Sneickus at their home in Auburndale. The workshop will take place on Friday, July 18 at 7 pm. Contact email@example.com for more information.
I will be singing in the Boston Singer Showcase at Ryles Jazz Club in Inman Square in Cambridge on Tuesday, June 19. Having familiar faces in the audience always makes a world of difference! The show begins at 8 pm.
Your comments and feedback are always welcome!
|What is EKP?|
is Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy, a heart-centered, body-centered
psychotherapy method Linda Marks developed and has taught and practiced
for nearly twenty years. Working with the heart, touch with permission,
the wisdom of the body and the intuitive guidance of the spirit, EKP
creates a special sense of intimacy that deeply touches and transforms
most all who participate.
Participants can be "client," witness
or helper as an individual group member has a "turn" to do deeper
heart-centered, body-centered psychospiritual work in the center. Since
the electromagnetic field of the heart extends out 10 - 12 feet from our
bodies, as we go deeper and open our hearts, we are all touched.
helps restore our capacity as organs of perception. The skin is our
largest organ, and a source of soul deep knowing, perception and
expression. When our hearts and hands can work as one, we move beyond
defenses safely and respectfully and find freedom, connection and
|Linda Marks, MSM|
safety is the foundation of EKP. When we are emotionally safe, we are
more aware of feelings, sensations and deeper thoughts in our bodies and
hearts. You will have a chance to listen to and care for your heart as
you help create and hold a safe healing space for everyone's heart.
Experience what we mean when we say that in EKP, "when anyone has a turn, everyone has a turn."
|Children Learn What They Live|
Children Learn What They Live By Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
Copyright © 1972 by Dorothy Law Nolte
To read this entire article...
|Workshops: Willingness in Relationships: Learning to Love Another Person on Their Own Terms|
have been doing a series of workshops at the home of Margaret Arndt and
David Sneickus in Auburndale, building on the theme of willingness in
relationships. The next workshop is on Friday, July 18..
Dealing With Difficult People
Are the people we refer
to as "difficult," really difficult? Or do some of their actions,
inactions, behaviors or words just trigger us so deeply that we are
really uncomfortable? How can we see what part is ours and what part is
theirs? Some behaviors really ARE difficult, and learning how to work
with difficult behaviors is a very valuable skill. Learning how the
"difficult" people in our life also offer a mirror for us to more deeply
consider our own growing edges and triggers is equally valuable.
In this workshop, we
will explore what makes someone "difficult," how "difficult" behavior
effects us, and what we can do to both be and feel more effective in
"difficult" situations. Contact Margaret at firstname.lastname@example.org
|Don't Cry Out Loud: Living Unhappily Ever After|
This past month I had the opportunity to see songstress Melissa
Manchester perform at Scullers Jazz Club. Her songs are really powerful
and her delivery soul-rendering. One of the songs she is best known
for may be described as the American emotional national-anthem, written
by Carole Bayer Sager, "Don't cry out loud." From an early age, when
our sensitive hearts are hurt, scared or disappointed, the adults around
us get uncomfortable, and tell us to stop it, to keep our feelings in
check. In essence, we are taught exactly what "baby" in the song is
taught: "don't cry out loud...just keep it inside...got to learn how to
hide your feelings..."
This may "look good" on the outside and allow us to appear to
"fly high and proud," but inside, it sets us up for a life of silent
suffering, isolation and the epidemic of anxiety and depression that
permeates our culture.
On the other hand, we are enamored
with "positive psychology," to reinforce that everything is better if we
only look at the bright side. A wonderfully insightful article in the
Wall St Journal, entitled, "How to Live Unhappily Ever After,"
challenges our obsession with the positive.
Copyright 2012 Linda Marks
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