January 1, 2012

HealingHeartPower Newsletter

Reclaiming the Power of the Heart
In This Issue
How Love Evokes Our Unloveable Parts
Workshops: Community As Healer and Willingness: The Key to Successful Relationships
Why Need Isn't a Four-Letter Word
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About Linda
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Linda Marks, MSM, is pioneer in body psychotherapy who has developed, taught and practiced Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy (EKP) for more than two decades.

Author of LIVING WITH VISION and HEALING THE WAR BETWEEN THE GENDERS, she co-founded the Massachusetts Association of Body Psychotherapists and Counseling Bodyworkers and is the founder of the Boston Area Sexuality and Spirituality Network. She holds degrees from Yale and MIT, and has a vital 15-year-old son.

To find out more about Linda . . .

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Would you like to learn how to do Emotional Kinesthetic Psychotherapy(EKP)?   

If you would like to apprentice in EKP, you may want to consider participating in a half-day EKP workshop or be part of the Community As Healer group.     


January 27

Willingness:  The Key to Successful Relationships

(Part 2)

at the home of Margaret Arndt and David Sneickus

Newton, MA



Community As Healer

Open enrollment workshop

Newton, MA 1 - 4 pm


April 22

Voices of Boys and Men

Benefit Concert for

Boys to Men  New England

Scullers Jazz Club

Boston, MA    

If you would like
to train in EKP, contact Linda.
If you would like to sponsor a Healing the Traumatized Heart workshop, a Community As Healer workshop, or have a group of people who you would like to bring EKP to, please contact LSMHEART@aol.com.

To find out more . . .   


WelcomeArticles in this issue are:  "How Love Evokes Our Unloveable Parts," building on last month's article about incompatibility providing a pathway to deepens relationships, "Why Need Isn't a Four-Letter Word," exploring why we feel shame when we need, and why asking for what we need is so important for healthy relationships.
The  Willingness:  The Key to Successful Relationships workshop at the home of Margaret Arndt and David Sneickus in Auburndale was very well attended and a big success.  Willingness: Part 2 will take place on Friday, January 27 at 7 pm at Margaret and David's house.  Contact msarndt@verizon.net for more information.
To help raise the visibility of EKP, I have established a new HealingHeartPower meetup group.  To join our meetup group....

I have created a new Community As Healer group on Facebook, for people who want to be part of or support this healing work.  http://www.facebook.com/#!/pages/Community-As-Healer/192746177418410
You can also "like us" on our HealingHeartPower  Facebook page. By "liking us", you will be notified whenever a new blog post is published.

Your comments and feedback are always welcome!    



What is EKP?
EKP is Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy, a heart-centered, body-centered psychotherapy method Linda Marks developed and has taught and practiced for nearly twenty years. Working with the heart, touch with permission, the wisdom of the body and the intuitive guidance of the spirit, EKP creates a special sense of intimacy that deeply touches and transforms most all who participate.

Participants can be "client," witness or helper as an individual group member has a "turn" to do deeper heart-centered, body-centered psychospiritual work in the center. Since the electromagnetic field of the heart extends out 10 - 12 feet from our bodies, as we go deeper and open our hearts, we are all touched.

EKP helps restore our capacity as organs of perception. The skin is our largest organ, and a source of soul deep knowing, perception and expression. When our hearts and hands can work as one, we move beyond defenses safely and respectfully and find freedom, connection and expression.


Beige silk and pearls
Linda Marks, MSM


Emotional safety is the foundation of EKP.  When we are emotionally safe, we are more aware of feelings, sensations and deeper thoughts in our bodies and hearts.  You will have a chance to listen to and care for your heart as you help create and hold a safe healing space for everyone's heart.  Experience what we mean when we say that in EKP, "when anyone has a turn, everyone has a turn."


Find us on FacebookHow Love Evokes Our Unloveable Parts


 Last month, I wrote about how what might appear to be incompatibility in a relationship, might actually provide a pathway to deepen love.  In the mirror of
love, as intimacy grows, we feel safe to be more of who we are.  We can then take the risk of letting our wounded, unhealed, and less developed parts, the parts we might fear are"unloveable," surface, for the purpose of healing.  


Sometimes this happens consciously.  But often, it happens subconsciously or unconsciously.  In the safety of love, our defenses start to melt, and our shadow parts emerge, the way a shoot emerges from a tulip bulb buried under the earth, sensing that spring is coming soon.


Initially, we may be horrified to feel so exposed, and to feel the discomfort of the parts we judge as unloveable.  What we reject, we distance from.  This creates a barrier to intimacy with both self and partner. 


To read this entire article...


Copyright 2011 Linda Marks

Workshops:  Willingness:  The Key to Successful Relationships and Community As HealerlFind us on Facebook

This winter, I will be doing two workshops periodically, one on relationships at the home of Margaret Arndt and David Sneickus in Auburndale, and Community As Healer here in Newtonville.  The next Willingness relationships workshop is on Friday, January 27.

Willingness:  The Key to Successful Relationships:
Part 2

How do we create and sustain happy, healthy relationships? Nowhere in school, at work or in our families are we given a road map of how to create successful relationships and how to work through the inevitable obstacles that come our way as intimacy deepens...or just through the way life unfolds.


How do we create and sustain happy, healthy relationships? Nowhere in school, at work or in our families are we given a road map of how to create successful relationships and how to work through the inevitable obstacles that come our way as intimacy deepens...or just through the way life unfolds.


Building on the material covered in the November "Willingness" workshop, this evening talk will review "willingness" and why it is the key factor for happy and healthy relationships, and will offer more coaching tips to help people work more deeply with challenges, rather than blame, shut down or walk away.


We will explore tools to help work through issues to keep a relationship healthy and growing, practices of willingness, appreciation and goodwill to nurture and sustain relationships over time, balancing self-care and care for others, and gendner differences that can cause unconscious blocks to communication.


Contact Margaret at msarndt@verizon.net

***************************************************************************************************************   "Community As Healer  Workshop" 

In EKP, there are four roles:  client, therapist, witness and helper, and when anyone has a turn, everyone has a turn due to the impact of the cardiac energy field.  Workshop participants will have a chance to be helper and witness as well as client, so in any one turn, more people can be actively involved.  By being with others in the healing process, one might say the whole is greater than the sum of its parts, and each individual benefits from the healing work of others. 


,Find us on FacebookWhy Need Isn't A Four Letter Word
We are taught very early that being "needy" is undesireable.  Our culture reveres self-reliance, sometimes to a pathological extreme.  And our "needs" are often considered dirty, shameful or bad.  "Need" is often treated like a "four letter word," but to our detriment.

When we are children, our needs reflect what is required to keep us alive, initially physically, and eventually emotionally and spiritually as well.  Today's culture focuses more on the existence of and value for our basic and higher human needs as individuals than in past eras.  In prior generations, more attention was paid to how we conformed to societally defined roles.  We were molded to fit the roles, rather than developed as unique human beings with inherent worth.

                                              To read the entire article...

My first blog at www.heartspacecafe.com/blog will still be active, but it is built in forum software, which many people find more cumbersome to use than official "blog" software.

In an effort to cultivate more dialogue in more contemporarily relevant ways, my new blog at HealingHeartPower.blogspot.com is user friendly, and even something you can subscribe to.
Please let me know what you think of this new blog.


Linda Marks

email: lsmheart@aol.com
phone: (617) 965-7846
web: www.HealingHeartPower.com