|January 1, 2011
Reclaiming the Power of the Heart
Marks, MSM, is pioneer in body psychotherapy who has developed, taught
and practiced Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy (EKP) for more than
of LIVING WITH VISION and HEALING THE WAR BETWEEN THE GENDERS, she
co-founded the Massachusetts Association of Body Psychotherapists and
Counseling Bodyworkers and is the founder of the Boston Area Sexuality
and Spirituality Network. She holds degrees from Yale and MIT, and has a
vital 14-year-old son.
To find out more about Linda . . .
Would you like to learn how to do Emotional Kinesthetic Psychotherapy
Applications are being accepted for the 2010 EKP
Apprenticeship Program. The apprenticeship group meets once a month for a
weekend training session beginning in September 2010. For more
information, contact LSMHEART@aol.com
or call Linda at (617)965-7846.
you would like to apprentice in EKP and get involved before January,
you may want to consider participating in a half-day EKP workshop or a
special seminar for current apprentices.
night EKP Therapy Group has room for new members. If you would like to
be part of a committed long-term group using EKP, this is a very special
group. An interview and one EKP session are required to apply. Contact
Linda if you are interested at LSMHEART@aol.com
Sunday Night EKP Therapy Group
seeks new members
6 - 8 pm
Community As Healer
1/2 day workshop
1 pm - 4 pm
in Newton, MA
Healing and Nourishing Your Heart
EKP Apprenticeship Program begins
you are interested in being part of an on-going EKP group that meets
once a month, let me know. We had run a Sunday EKP Process group for
many years, and could consider forming another one, if there is
interest. Whether your schedule is too busy for a weekly group, or you
live far enough away that a monthly session is more sustainable, if a
monthly group would best meet your needs, we can try to put one
together. EKP opportunities in Newton include:* Being a guest client in the Student Clinic* Apprenticing in EKPIf you would like a Healing the Traumatized Heart workshop near you, or have a group of people who you would like to bring EKP to, please contact LSMHEART@aol.com.To find out more . . .
Special workshop on Making Peace With Money
More details to follow soon
The beginning of a New Year is a time many people look ahead and think about their vision for the coming year.
vision that has been growing within my heart, is developing a team of
heart-centered healers who help bring "Community As Healer" experiences
out into the community, where people need them.
EKP Community Clinics are very meaningful. However, I feel myself
called more and more to help pass on the tools to create safe healing
space in the larger world, and to help empower people to literally,
"lend a helping hand."
you have an organization, community group, school or other situation
where members might be interested in learning these skills, please let
long-standing Thursday night EKP group is now transforming into a
Sunday night EKP group beginning on January 9. The group will meet from
6 - 8 pm in Newton, and we have room for a couple new members. The
group is a wonderful way to do deep healing work in a safe, community
space, and work on vision and goals as well.
This winter, I look forward to leading two workshops in Emerson Hospital's innovative Health
and Wellness Program. "Healing and Nourishing Your Heart: The
Physical-Emotional Connection," will take place on February 16. The
date for "Understanding Your Child's Emotional and Spiritual Needs" is
still being set.
January 23 will be a, Community As Healer half-day
workshop in Newton. This workshop provides an opportunity to explore
and experience what is involved in literally lending a helping hand.
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Articles in this issue include "Couplehood As a Spiritual Path" exploring how heartfelt communication is both a form of meditation and contributor to a sense of emotional coherence and "Sugar Addiction," a more invisible and less talked about addiction than alcohol or other substances, but a powerful addiction, nonetheless.You can also "like us" on our HealingHeartPower Facebook page. By "liking us", you will be notified whenever a new blog post is published.
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What is EKP?|
Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy, a heart-centered,
body-centered psychotherapy method Linda Marks developed and has taught
and practiced for nearly twenty years. Working with the heart, touch
with permission, the wisdom of the body and the intuitive guidance of
the spirit, EKP creates a special sense of intimacy that deeply touches
and transforms most all who participate.
Participants can be "client," witness or helper as an individual group
member has a "turn" to do deeper heart-centered, body-centered
psychospiritual work in the center. Since the electromagnetic field of
the heart extends out 10 - 12 feet from our bodies, as we go deeper and
open our hearts, we are all touched.
EKP helps restore our capacity as organs of perception. The skin is our
largest organ, and a source of soul deep knowing, perception and
expression. When our hearts and hands can work as one, we move beyond
defenses safely and respectfully and find freedom, connection and
|Couplehood As a Spiritual Path|
years ago a client gave me a powerful quote that has been posted on the
walls of my writer's cave. The paper is now yellowed with age, but the
message remains fresh, powerful and true:
'listen' another's soul into a condition of disclosure and discovery
may be almost the greatest service that any human being ever performs
Steere, From Gleanings: A Random Harvest
listened to, really listened to, is a basic human need. Having a
caring listener, who is emotionally invested in hearing how it is to be
who we are, and who can share and follow us in our life's journey over
time is empowering, healing, validating and nourishing.
able to truly speak and listen from the heart to the heart, allows for
much deeper feelings, thoughts and experiences to emerge and be felt and
spoken. This kind of listening space is very sacred and provides a
kind of relational heart meditation for both the speaker and the
we are in a relationship that is meant to last the test of time, and
provide a structure for companionship and connection over the course of
our lives, developing the ability to speak and listen from the heart can
allow both the relationship and the individuals who comprise it to
develop emotionally and spiritually. In this sense, couplehood can
become a spiritual path, if both members of the couple choose to
envision and engage in communication from this special, deeper place.
an interview published in the Ericksonian Newsletter (Volume 29, No.
3), relationship author Harville Hendrix notes, "When we ask listening
partners to quiet their minds and focus on the messages of the partner
who is sending, they not only listen more accurately and deeply but they
become more peaceful inside. They refer to this as being more centered
similar to what is described by people who meditate."
EKP couple therapy, when I invite a couple to slow down, get grounded,
take some deep breathes and begin to speak and listen from the heart, I
witness a sacred safety and co-holding that allows both people to go
much deeper within themselves and express much more deeply with one
another. Heart to heart communication not only enhances emotional
connection between the partners in the here and now, but also allows a
space of healing to develop,in which past hurts, traumas,
disappointments and misunderstandings can be released, rectified and
processed in the here and now.
explains, "When this happens, emotional memories, that have been housed
in the amygdala are translated into words and relocated in the
hippocampus--thus putting the past in the past. This process integrates
alienated and isolated aspects into the self, thus contributing to the
recovery of wholeness, which is another aspect of healing that is both
spiritual and psychological at the same time."
this sense, couplehood, can be a spiritual path, and as Hendrix
reflects, "dialogue is a spiritual practice." If those of us who share
our lives with a partner appreciate this possibility and develop the
skills and awareness to slow down, take time and space and speak and
listen from the heart regularly with our partners, the quality of both
our lives and relationships can increase tremendously.
is truly no need for fighting, reacting out of old triggers, and
"othering" a loved one. If we can only taste the possibility of
emotionally safe, grounded, heartfelt relating, our relationships can
become more meaningful and less limiting or entrapping.
Copyright 2010 Linda Marks
thinking of "addiction" or "chemical dependency," substances like
alcohol, marijuana, cocaine, pain killers and other "drugs," come to
mind. Rarely do we think of the food we eat as chemical compound. And
while we might classify foods as "healthy" or "junk," we may not think
about the possibility of an unhealthy food to create an addiction or
emotional or chemical dependency that can undermine and even jeopardize
our health in powerful ways.
While we may think to limit sugar
consumption for reasons of weight and calories, becoming aware of the
biochemical impact of sugar on our physiology and psychology is
important. Sugar is often considered one of the "comfort foods," we
turn to when we want to "feel good," and sweets are often referred to as
"treats," a way to reward ourselves with something special.
reason sugar may have such a strong pull on our moods and emotions is
that sweets may impact our biochemistry in ways that are similar to
opiates, such as heroin. In a publication from the Society for
Neuroscience, "Brain Briefings, " October 2003, it was noted that "some
brain actions and characteristics associated with thet intake of sweets
and drug addiction may overlap," primarily in the area of the brain's
opiate receptors. Some of the original work about the activation of mu
opiod receptors in the brain by sweets was done in the late 1990's by
In 2008, Nicole Avena published data
affirming that sugars could be expected to have addictive potential
because they affect opioids and dopamine in the brain. People binge on
sugar, can become physically and psychologically dependent on sugar and
experience withdrawal when trying to detox from a sugar addiction.
impacts our moods and energy level. We can move from high to low, from
euphoria to depression, from energized to exhausted as sugar is
metabolized by our bodies. When we look at mood issues and
hyperactivity in children and teens, sugar can be a central culprit.
Sugar issues also impact adults, and perhaps this part of the picture
has been most under the radar.
How do you know if you are sugar addicted?
* Do you have a hard time getting through the day without eating something sweet?
* Do you think about sweets all the time, to the point of obsessing about eating them?
* If you feel sad or tired, do you reach for a food with lots of sugar?
* Do you find yourself constantly munching on candies or drinking soda or eating sweet treats over the course of your day?
* Do you eat cookies, candies, chocolates or cakes every day or every multiple times each day?
* If you are uncomfortable, do you reach for a sugary snack--including at a similar time each day?
* If you don't reach for something sweet, do you become uncomfortable or agitated?
* Are you lethargic, moody or depressed?
you find yourself moving away from a balanced diet of healthy foods and
filling your eating time and options with sugar foods, you are removing
the nutritional grounding that can help you say no to sugar and
contributing to a potential dependency or addiction to sugary foods.
recover from sugar addiction, making dietary changes is critical.
Eating protein and vegetables is an important foundation. Substituting
fruit, which has natural sugars, for cakes, cookies, candies and soda,
allows you to have something sweet that won't hurt your body. Aspartame
and artificial sweeteners, corn syrup and salt can all exacerbate the
problem. Whole grains are much better for your body than processed
carbohydrates. Eating a good breakfast which includes protein will help
stabilize your body and your moods.
While it might be hard or
uncomfortable to ween yourself from sugar and go through the detox
process, once you have gotten used to a healthier diet, you will feel
the difference. Anxiety, depression, exhaustion and difficulty focusing
It is important to remember that food is a biochemical
substance as well as a nutritional substance, and there is much more to
consider than just calories!
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