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The last few months have planted some
wonderful seeds that are sprouting and
growing. The Healing the Traumatized
Heart Workshop on October 25 was a
particularly special gathering, and we hope
many of you who participated do come back again.
On the one hand, it is very special to bring
together a group of strangers and build the
safety to connect deeply and do
heart-centered healing work for a day. Yet,
on the other hand, it is sad when these
instances happen as "stand alone" experiences
because all the demands of life today make it
hard to sustain this kind of group in an
on-going way.
There is a tremendous benefit to a group of
people building a deep and steady sense of
safety over time, and "dipping back into the
well of healing," again and again, for the
benefit of all!
Thanks to the feedback of Linda Smith, who
wrote to me, and to seconding of the idea by
the folks in the October 25 workshop, I
will be doing a new workshop on January
24, Keeping A Vital Heart. Rather
than just focusing on healing trauma, this
workshop will look at the "care and feeding,"
of an already vital heart. Keeping our
emotional and physical hearts vital and
vibrant is important work!
The next EKP apprenticeship training group
will begin in September 2010. If you are
interested in studying EKP, and
want to get started before September 2010,
please let me know.
Articles in this issue include: "An
Economic Bill of Rights: Bringing History
Into Our Current Times,"
looking at what Roosevelt tried to implement
prior to his death in the 1940's,, and
"Keeping A Vital Heart,"
reflecting some topics that will be included
in my new workshop,
and Should You Go to
College, by my son Alex, who is now
trying his hand at journalism, including
writing OpEd pieces for his school newspaper.
Your comments and feedback are always welcome!
Heartfully,
Linda
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An Economic Bill of Rights?
Bringing History into Our Current Times
As soon as Michael Moore's new movie,
"Capitalism: A Love Story," hit the cinema
screen, I knew I wanted to go see it. I have
appreciated Moore's courage to tackle
"politically untouchable" subjects such as
9/11, the health care system in the United
States, and now, capitalism, the overarching
philosophy that dominates our economic system.
I deeply appreciated the way Moore's
carefully presented stream of information
both reinforced what I had been intuitively
noticing for many, many years, and filled in
missing puzzle pieces of how we got to where
we are.
While I knew that Ronald Reagan had been a
grade B movie actor, I was not aware that he
was also a pitch man for Wall Street, and
that his election as president was truly just
a continuation of this role. Donald Regan
became his Wall Street partner and right hand
adviser in his presidential role. Reagan's
1980 election marked the beginning of the
partnership between Wall Street and the
government that has led to the downfall of
the middle class American, and financial
resources being eaten up by a top 1% "ruling
class."
What was most striking for me was the way
Moore ended the movie with Franklin Delano
Roosevelt's message to Congress on the State
of the Union on January 11, 1944. In his
address, Roosevelt spoke of what Moore called
a "Second Bill of Rights." This bill of
rights would assure a reasonable standard of
living for ALL Americans, not just the ruling
class, the privileged or those with political
and financial connections.
Sadly, Roosevelt died before his model could
be implemented. But as Moore points out,
Roosevelt's advisors brought this model to
Europe and Japan, so that citizens in nations
abroad enjoy health care, education, and
financial security in old age as their
birthright. All of these social benefits
form part of a catchment net that our
capitalism society has torn out from under
us. How ironic that the very country that
introduced the concept of true "social
security," is actually not providing it to
its citizens.
Roosevelt's words are very powerful and
relevant today. I don't think it is too late
to bring them back to life, and create
structures that might allow them to underpin
our society going forward. Roosevelt stated,
"America's own rightful place in the world
depends in large part upon how fully these
and similar rights have been carried into
practice for our citizens."
As America has declined in its position in
the global economy, I would venture to say
that making ends meet for the average
American is at least twice as hard today as
it was 30 - 40 years ago. I am afraid we are
seeing what Roosevelt predicted--only from
the dark side.
Though we are far less a farming society than
we were in 1944, so that Roosevelt's
inclusion of a "right" regarding farmers may
seem less relevant than other "rights," most
everything Roosevelt articulated is still
bedrock for enjoying a healthy, happy and
reasonable life as a human being.
Roosevelt's Second Bill of Rights include,
intended to provide a "basis of security and
prosperity" to ALL Americans, "regardless of
station, race or creed" are:
1. The right to a useful and remunerative job.
2. The right to earn enough to provide
enough food, clothing and creation for self
and family.
3. The right for every farmer to generate a
return that will give him/her and his/her
family a decent living.
4. The right of every businessman, large and
small, to trade in an atmosphere of freedom
from unfair competition and domination by
monopolies at home or abroad.
5. The right of every family to a decent home.
6. The right to adequate medicla care and
the opportunity to achieve and enjoy good health.
7. The right to protection from the economic
fears of old age, sickness, accident and
unemployment.
8. The right to a good education.
Roosevelt notes, "True individual freedom
cannot exist without economic security and
independence. 'Necessitous men are not free
men.' People who are hungry and out of a job
are the stuff of which dictatorships are made."
Sadly, the perpetuation over the past 30
years of a Wall Street/government alliance
has indeed rendered the mainstream workplace
a "dictatorship," which Moore himself
articulates. And it has allowed "white
collar criminals" like Madoff, Milliken,
Skilling, Fastow and company to commit
robbery and financial murder on a large scale.
Can we jump out of our pot of boiling water,
come back to life, and gather together to
overthrow this dictatorship? I surely hope
so. Otherwise, like the Roman Empire before
us, whose story Moore uses to open his film,
we will become another failed civilization,
falling into a pattern that clearly we have
not internalized, learned from or changed.
©2009 Linda Marks
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Keeping A Vital Heart
What makes your heart happy? If you really
want to nourish your heart, what is your
special recipe? Our "heartprints" are just
as unique as our fingerprints, so what feeds
your heart may be different than what feeds mine.
However, one common principal resonates from
heart to heart: coherence. The heart
thrives when we have a sense that life is
purposeful, manageable and meaningful. One
can say that hearts are purpose driven, and
seek meaning, connection. Hearts also like
to feel that things make sense, at least
emotionally and practically, and that how we
are spending our time and life energy feels
on target and within reasonable bounds.
To have more coherence in our lives, it is
important to become more and more grounded.
To be grounded is to be present in the
moment, mentally, emotionally, physically and
spiritually. When we sit with our feet flat
on the ground, our tailbone rooting into our
chair and our spine softly aligned with room
for our breath and our hearts, we are more
able to let life's current run through us--up
from the ground through our feet and down
back into the ground from our whole bodies.
When we are grounded, we have more internal
capacity to dance with life, including to
field curve balls more gracefully. We are
more able to slow down when needed, and
respond when needed as well.
Here are some ways to care for your heart:
1. Take mindful moments. Slow down,
take a time out and destress--even for just a
minute.
2. Get grounded emotionally, physically
and in the moment. Close your eyes.
Take a few deep breaths. Notice how you are
feeling in your body and your heart. Quiet
your mind. Be present with whatever you are
feeling in your body and in your heart.
3. Listen to your heart. What is
your heart trying to tell you? Is it full?
Is it empty? Is it heavy? Is it light? If
your heart had a voice, what would it say?
4. Learn what your heart needs and give
those things to yourself. Too often we
put our own needs at the bottom of the list.
If you list to your heart, follow its
guidance. Put your heart's needs at the top
of the list.
5. Nurture yourself. Meditate. Take
a walk on a nice day. Take a warm bath. Pet
your cat or your dog. Share your deepest
feelings with a trusted friend. Have a
massage. All of these activities generate
oxytocin, which will reduce your stress level
and nurture your heart.
6. Increase emotional safety. What
people, places and things make you feel
emotionally safe? Spend time with these
people in these places, doing these things.
7. Remove sources of stress. Are
there any sources of stress that you can
actually remove? If you give yourself a
little more down time, do you work more
efficiently? If so, take some of the
pressure to get things done off yourself. If
you have put off paying your bills and this
is weighing on you, pay your bills. Identify
sources of stress you can change, and make
the changes.
©2009 Linda Marks
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Should You Go to College?
by Alex Marks-Katz
Why go to college? So you can get a good job?
So you can develop yourself as a person?
What's your reason?
While the thought is, "Well, if I don't go to
college, I won't get a good job," the reality
is there are plenty of successful people who
did not go to college. Take Bill Gates, for
example. He dropped out of Harvard after 1
year and became one of the wealthiest men
in the world.
However, be careful about your decision.
"Today, especially in our country, most
people go to college. If you don't go to
college, it is harder for you to get a job
than someone with a college education. [If
you don't go to college,] it shrinks your job
options," says Professor Brownell, a
professor of psychology at BC. Also, "many
people who don't go to college will have
lower salaries," says Professor Muller, an
associate professor of computer science at
BC. Don't assume you'll get lucky. Make sure
your decision makes sense.
Also, there are many benefits of going to
college. One is "the chance to develop an
ability to think independently," says
Professor Muller. Professor Brownell says
another key benefit of going to college is
"that you learn how to analyze problems and
solve them when the answers aren't written
down anywhere."
The second truth of college is its cost. If
you choose to go to a Harvard or a Yale,
chances are you'll be paying nearly 200,000
dollars. Also, keep in mind that even with
this education, you'll will still probably
just get an average job that pays around
40,000 to 60,000 dollars annually.
Professor Brownell believes that if you take
out a student loan, "you have to be practical
and conservative [with your money]. [A] huge
loan can be a burden [later in life]. Don't
overdo it." However, your loan may make sense
if your career is in "a strong industry
[because] you can pay off the loan," says
Professor Brownell.
This brings up the question, "Should I go to
a state college or a big costly name?" For
most, the answer is the former. If you go to
college, make a good decision on where to go.
Most colleges have similar curriculums for
Liberal Arts, the basis for most careers, so
it won't make a huge difference where you go.
Next, you should ask yourself, "Did I enjoy
high-school or was I on the verge of a
nervous breakdown?" If the latter is true,
college could just not be for you. If you are
one of those people who are not "interested
in school," says Professor Muller, "then
college is just a waste of time and money,"
continues Professor Brownell. They agree that
college is not for everyone. Professor Muller
says college is a place for "those who have a
natural taste for ideas."
Also, you could consider taking a year off
from college. Professor Brownell says, "Some
people aren't ready for college. A student
needs to work hard making opportunities [for
themselves]." Just don't rush yourself or you
may end up dropping out and just wasting money.
The professors have a few last words about
college. Professor Muller says, "College has
2 aspects, to help you develop a career where
you are productive and reasonably paid and to
educate you." "College is a lot of fun," says
Professor Brownell. With these thoughts in
mind, it may be worth it for you to go to
college. But remember, going to college is
your decision.
©2009 Alex Marks-Katz
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HealingHeartPower Calendar
Would you like to learn how to do EKP?
Applications are being accepted for the
2010 EKP Apprenticeship Program. The
apprenticeship group meets once a month for a
weekend training session beginning in
September 2010. For more
information, contact LSMHEART@aol.com or call
Linda at (617)965-7846.
The Thursday night EKP Therapy Group has
openings for a couple new members. An interview
and one EKP session are required to apply.
Contact
Linda if you are interested at LSMHEART@aol.com
The next Healing the
Traumatized Heart Workshop, is on
Sunday, December 6 from 2 - 5
pm, in Newton.
Join us for an
experience of heartfull
healing
and community.
To enroll, send an e-mail to
LSMHEART@aol.com, and a check for $50 to
Linda Marks, 3 Central Avenue, Newton, MA
02460. Please include your name, phone
number, address and e-mail.
Keeping A Vital Heart,a new EKP
workshop, will take place on Sunday, January
24 from 2 - 5 pm in Newton. Taking care of
your heart is an important practice that will
deepen happiness and fulfillment, as well as
help to heal trauma and pain.
To enroll, send an e-mail to
LSMHEART@aol.com, and a check for $50 to
Linda Marks, 3 Central Avenue, Newton, MA
02460. Please include your name, phone
number, address and e-mail.
Linda is teaching a Stress Management
Class at UMass Boston on Wednesday,
November 28 at 2:30 pm.
If you are interested in being part of an
on-going EKP group that meets once a month,
let me know. We had run a Sunday EKP Process
group for many years, and could consider
forming another one, if there is interest.
Whether your schedule is too busy for a
weekly group, or you live far enough away
that a monthly session is more sustainable,
if a monthly group would best meet your
needs, we can try to put one together.
EKP opportunities in Newton include:
- Being a guest client in the Student Clinic
- On-going Thursday night EKP Body
Psychotherapy Group (which currently has room
for a
couple new members)
- Apprenticing in EKP
If you would like a Healing the
Traumatized Heart
workshop near you, or have a group of people
who you would like to bring EKP to, please
contact
LSMHEART@aol.com.
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Heartfully,
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