January 2007 
 HealingHeartPower Newsletter
 Reclaiming the Power of the Heart
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The effects of global warming were surely palpable this holiday season. As I saw pictures in the Wall St Journal of children in India riding an elephant donned in red and white Santa Claus outfits without a trace of snow, I felt that short of the elephants, those pictures might have been taken here in the Northeast! On December 24, people were leaving my gym dressed only in shorts and a sweatshirt!

I hope your new year if off to a wonderful start and that 2007 is a year of good things for you and those you love.

I appreciate all the wonderful e-letters I received upon publication of my first e-newsletter. Thank you. I am glad my venture into this foreign-to-me-cyber-world is actually serving the purpose of nurturing connections.

In this issue, I have included two articles: one on "The Law of Attraction and the Power of the Heart," and another on "Intergenerational Threads." I have also featured a colleague of mine, executive coach Richard Tosti, who masterfully helps people achieve their very best.

And, there's also information about the January 21 Healing the Traumatized Heart workshop here in Newton, the Healing the Traumatized Heart retreat at Kripalu March 16 - 18, and on-going groups and programs.

As the www.heartspacecafe.com website remains underconstruction, I welcome your thoughts, feedback, resources and ideas to share with others. It's always good to hear from you, whatever the reason!

Heartfully, Linda

 The Law of Attraction and the Power of the Heart

There is a movie that is circulating in many of my circles these days. Perhaps you have heard of it or seen it. It is called "The Secret," and it is about the Law of Attraction. Because so many people I know recommended it, I got a copy and watched it.

Much of what the movie put forth was very familiar to me. It reminds me of why I wrote my first book, LIVING WITH VISION: RECLAIMING THE POWER OF THE HEART. And it is always good to be reminded about the essence of our creative capacity as human beings and how to use it in our lives.

A key point is that what we focus our attention on is what we create in our lives. If we are focusing on what we DON'T want, we will manifest just that, what we don't want. If we are focusing our attention on what we DO want, in time, with the help of right action, we will mainfest what what we really do want. This notion is not only about the power of the mind, but also the power of the heart. A point made repeatedly by some of the experts in the film is that it is not enough just to visualize what we want in our minds. We also need to FEEL it in our hearts.

This makes total sense from an EKP point of view. After all, the heart has the strongest electromagnetic force field in the body. When we feel something in our hearts, we can direct our full power towards what we really care about. There is also an EKP principal which says, "what calls our attention, needs our attention." This is true both in terms of physical sensations and feelings in the body, and practical issues in our lives.

In the film "Eragon," which I saw recently with my 10 year-old-son and his best friend, the metaphor of harnessing the power of the heart is presented beautifully. In the movie, a boy is chosen to be a dragon rider. He finds a large blue oval object, which turns out to be a dragon egg. When the dragon hatches, the boy nurtures the baby dragon, and begins to build a soul deep bond with his special friend.

One morning, after waking up with the dragon curled beside him, he discovers a spiral mark burned into his hand. It is the mark of a dragon rider, given to him by his dragon. As the boy matures, he discovers he has been given the gift of magic. And one quality of this magic is the power of the heart. He can use his love to heal, if he directs his whole being's energy on the healing he wishes to support. He uses this power to save his dragon when she is wounded in a battle.

That movie passage reminded me of what EKP is about: embracing the power of the heart, and using that power to help others, to bring empowerment and healing. And yet, a very important part of applying the heart power is also non-attachment--turning our will over to the divine, and asking for whatever is highest to come through. Our creative power comes to life when we work in concert with the universal forces, and we become conduits for spiritual energy to become manifest.

"The Secret" helps illustrate the creative power we can channel when we look deep into our hearts to see what is truly right for us, and those around us, and when we commit to bringing this truth into our daily lives.

For more on EKP (Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy) 

 Intergenerational Threads

I have often felt the impact of intergenerational energy both in my own life and in work with my clients. I think the most blatant example for me occurred when my first marriage ended. My then husband and I were good friends, good partners, communicated well and even wanted the same goals. The kinds of problems that plague many relationships were not what challenged us.

Instead, in the safety of our marriage, my then husband started to open to his own sexual-spiritual journey and a pull towards defining a more authentic sense of himself. And what it revealed were deep questions he needed to answer about his sense of identity, that did not lend themselves to being explored in the structure of a marriage with a woman in her early 30's who was ready to have kids.

Realizing my parents would never understand why we were divorcing, I asked them to come to therapy with me for one session. By the grace of God, they said, "Yes." And this was the only time they ever were willing to sit with me in a therapist's office.

As I was revealing the deeper truths of why the marriage could not go on, to my utter surprise, my father spoke up and said, "I understand. I actually have some of the very same issues your husband has." I suddenly discovered these very issues were at the core of my father's own personal struggle and led to much pain and disconnection in my parents' own relationship. Only, my father never faced it head on. It remained in the shadows, passed on to me unconsciously and unintentionally, to have to face and work out in my own life! Wow!

Over many years, again I have found myself in challenging situations where the influence of my ancestors seemed more at the root of what was unfolding than what I could change or improve through my own committed and meticulous self-work and healing. And I began to recognize this pattern in my clients as well.

So, you can imagine how intrigued I became when EKP apprentice Larry Cotton made me aware of a link to a BBC video about intergenerational influence at a genetic and biological level. The video describes "epigenetics,", which according to Wikipedia is defined as:

"The study of epigenetic inheritance, a set of reversible heritable changes in gene function or other cell phenotype that occur without a change in DNA sequence (genotype). These changes may be induced spontaneously, in response to environmental factors, or in response to the presence of a particular allele, even if it is absent from subsequent generations."

In this video, researchers found that experiences the occurred in one generation actually had a genetic impact on future generations. One example was a study of the intergenerational impact of a famine in Sweden. It turned out, that threads of that crisis were traceable in not only the children of the adults who lived through the famine, but also their children as well.

This information does not surprise me. Just as our heartwaves literally touch the people around us, and can be measured in the brainwaves of another, our inner state has biochemical and neurological impact on others. I remember taking a class on Pre and Perinatal Psychology with Thomas Verny many years ago.

In the class, in order to illustrate the impact of ones inner state on a developing fetus, he showed a video of a woman who truly did not want to be pregnant. The video showed a meeting with the woman and her doctor, discussing her feelings about the pregnancy and her trepidations and resentment about having to become a mother to a child.

During this conversation, the woman's belly was hooked up to an ultrasound, which monitored and revealed the fetus' response to her feelings and comments. Whenever the mother would talk about her resentment towards her unborn child, the fetus would cringe and curl up tightly in as distant a corner of the uterus as he could find.

Even before birth, he was aware that this was a hostile environment, he was not safe, and he was pulling his energy inside to try to survive the negative energy being directed towards him.

It may come as no surprise that when it was time for this baby to be born, he would not come out vaginally. The mother ended up needing a C-section, and when the doctors went in to get him, they found him curled up tight in a far corner of the uterus, holding on for dear life. He did NOT want to be born into what most likely he expected to be an ever more hostile world than the one he had experienced in-utero.

Sadly, this baby failed to thrive once delivered, and died within a week of his birth.

I look forward to what emerges in further research about intergenerational patterns--both physical and psychological. If you are interested in exploring the energetics of intergenerational patterns, a body of work that you might find interesting is Family Constellations work, developed by German therapist Bert Hellinger. Dan Cohen at www.hiddensolution.com is a Boston area resource for this work.

For those of you who are familiar with Psychodrama, you will find Family Constellations a related technique. A major difference between Psychodrama and Family Constellations, is that Family Constellations focuses on the energy field of the family system and the members of the "drama," rather than externalizing and exploring internal parts within ones own psyche.

Find out more.... 

 Upcoming Workshops, On-going Groups and Apprenticing

This month marks the beginning of the second year of work of my current group of EKP apprentices. The Institute for EKP offered a 3-year, 1000 hour apprenticeship training program from 1990 - 2001. With the birth of my son in 1996, and then becoming a single mom in 1998, I realized, most regretfully, I could not continue running my school.

While people continued to ask me to train them, I felt I had to say no, because I could not both give my young son the attention he needed and deserved and take on students with the intensity they needed and deserved. As 2006 approached, enough people approached me with sufficient intensity that I realized it was time to reconsider apprenticing people once again.

I realized that if we went about the apprenticeship process more slowly--meeting one weekend a month, and extending the learning process over more than 3 years, I could indeed commit to apprenticing a new crop of EKP therapists. And so began 2006, with an EKP apprenticeship group.

I am really glad that both this group of apprentices and I made a co-commitment to this learning journey. I love watching my apprentices grow and evolve in the spirit of EKP, and also apply their own unique gifts, background and interests to the EKP process.

At some point, I will take on another group of apprentices. I don't yet know when. If you are interested in studying EKP, please let me know. I am gathering a list of interested folks. And, I trust the right time to begin a second apprenticeship group will become clear.

For those of you who would like an intensive, retreat EKP experience, I will be returning to Kripalu in Lenox, MA to lead a Healing the Traumatized Heart retreat March 16 - 18. For more information, go to www.kripalu.org.

If you would like to participate in an on-going EKP group, I lave two on-going EKP Body Psychotherapy Groups. They are both mixed gender, long-term committed groups. Both groups have openings for male and female members. An interview and one EKP session are required to apply.
  • On-going Tuesday night EKP Body Psychotherapy Group
  • On-going Thursday night EKP Body Psychotherapy Group
For more information contact LSMHEART@aol.com.

  • 1/21 Healing the Traumatized Heart Workshop

1 - 4 pm in Newton, MA

The heart is the most powerful generator of electromagnetic energy in the body. Through our cardiac field, we can literally "reach out and touch" one another. Sadly, trauma, deprivation, neglect and the stress of modern day life traumatize our hearts, leading to emotional and physical pain and illness. Discover the healing power of our individual and collective hearts. In this workshop, we will have the opportunity to become "healing hands" to one another in a safe, sacred community space.

To enroll, contact LSMHEART@aol.com or call (617)965-7846.

For more information on the 1/21 workshop or the on-going EKP therapy groups, see www.healingheartpower.com.

Find out more.... 

 About Linda
 Body Psychotherapy and Coaching for Individuals, Couples and Groups

Linda Marks, MSM, is pioneer in body psychotherapy who has developed, taught and practiced Emotional-Kinesthetic Psychotherapy (EKP) for 22 years. Author of LIVING WITH VISION and HEALING THE WAR BETWEEN THE GENDERS, she co-founded the Massachusetts Association of Body Psychotherapists and Counseling Bodyworkers and is the founder of the Boston Area Sexuality and Spirituality Network. She holds degrees from Yale and MIT, and has a vital almost 11-year-old son.

To find out more about Linda.... 

 A Coach With Vision and Heart
 Richard Tosti

Richard Bookcover In my travels, I am grateful when I come across colleagues who share a sense of possibility for others and help them realize their full potential as human beings. I love to share good resources with my own community, and welcome good resources when they are brought to my attention, as well.

This past November, I was fortunate enough to meet a new colleague who does just that. Richard Tosti is an executive coach who inspires people to reach for new levels of excellence. He is a vital and spirited individual, who exudes possibility when he speaks.

His book, THE PROACTIVE PATH: A RADICAL GUIDE TO BUSINESS EXCELLENCE (Triangle Associates Publishing, 2004) is a powerful guide for self-management and creating the results you want in your life.

Find out more.... 

In closing, I'd like to share something my best friend Brenda sent me on Christmas Day. She read it in Dr. Andrew Weil's Christmas Day column. It is a piece on celebrating friends and family, and I really love what he has put forth!

"When it comes down to it, friends, family, loved ones and acquaintances who make you feel more alive, happy, and optimistic are some of the most important treasures in life. All the money and power you can imagine are not likely to be as satisfying as good conversation, trust, dependability and laughter. Today, take a moment to think about the special people in your life, and ways you can keep those relationships strong. Make it a priority to spend some time each week with at least one of them--whether by phone, e-mail, in person, or through a letter. Human connectedness is a powerful healer, one we should all embrace."

You may also want to visit www.sexspirit.net to see the wonderful programs the Boston Area Sexuality and Spirituality Network has put together for 2007!